6 Ways to Build Constructive Discontent-A 21C Superpower

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Do you want to communicate and collaborate across boundaries?  Improve leadership and life results? Learn to watch your emotions without judgment or reaction while focusing on your true/most important goals/objectives.  Pie in the sky?  Think again, I have done it and my clients have done it for 14+years.  You too can achieve similar results by developing a new perspective and skill set (“constructive discontent” that takes you forward stronger, happier and faster.  The proof is in the coaching. Developing constructive discontent may be the most powerful thing you can do because it is a 21st C superpower!

I believe passionately in constructive discontent as a critical learned skill that can change lives in a multiplicity of ways. Coaching leadership teams/healthcare professionals many years ago led me to doing a certification in coaching emotional intelligence, consulting and to developing my 3Q philosophy and model. Anything else?  Yes, my personal life, career experiences and fascination with all things “neuro” compelled me to find a way to lead, succeed and reduce toxic stress in very difficult, challenging circumstances.

Here are 6 ways to start building a 21C superpower: Constructive Discontent.  Read more about 3Q life and leadership skills-building your 3Q edge.

1.  Expect change to be stressful but know that you can use them to move forward smarter, faster and happier. Part of accommodating change is doing what you can to get additional help or support, using effective delegation, dedicating daily time to recharge, repurpose and reinvigorate.  Find effective ways of putting your brain into an alpha state during the day will help you develop mindfulness, increased focus on what is important and is terrific at lessening stress…

⇨  Here is a quick 2-3-minute exercise I call THE PAUSE that is easy to learn and really effective.

2.  Understand and limit crisis orientation.  Our brains are automatically set to go into fight or flight in reaction to fear.  We live in a world where we are surrounded by negativity, fear, change, and fear of change.  Learn to understand when you are going into fight or flight mode so that you can move past the 90-second window of reaction and respond rather than react or flee.

⇨  Develop your ability to move past fight or flight, because you can retrain your brain to refocus while not moving to fight or flight so that you will respond and NOT react.

3.  Be gentle with yourself.  Get rid of the negative self-talk, the should have, would haves. Notice any signs of stress in your body. Apply self-compassion.

⇨  Take a few moments to breathe deeply because it is impossible to maintain the same level of stress, anxiety or tension after breathing deeply.

4.  Resist negativity because it will not take you forward. Develop positive habits of thought, positive coping styles that will allow you to build constructive discontent. Take positive steps to alleviate the pressures, the stressors you can do something about.

⇨  Establish personal boundaries and priorities that work for you not against you.  Offset pressures with time for relaxation and activities that bring you pleasure.

5.  Develop habits of thought that will help shift your perspective and discover new options.  We are social animals, you need social relationships and you need ME time to just reflect and reboot!

⇨  Eliminate burnout factors by strengthening meaningful relationships with others and meaningful time with yourself.|

6.  Develop flexibility by simply identifying one rigid pattern of behaviour/coping and turn it around. Observe yourself for one day. Notice how you react to compliments, to demands, to angry co-workers. Develop greater self-awareness (not judgment/ self-judgment) and learn to become the participant observer.

⇨  Pick a habitual or rigid pattern of behavior and turn it around in small consistent ways.  Each small step repeated consistently is a power step forward.

Develop constructive discontent, build your 3Q edge before the next change, challenge or negative stressors nips at your heels! Purpose, meaning, contribution are the drivers that build our best selves, best work, best organizations; they are drivers that can be elusive without developing constructive discontent because the velocity of change, challenges, competition will continue to grow, as will the opportunity to transform what is into what CAN be in our lives, workplaces, and world.

⇨  QUESTIONS FOR YOU:  How is reactivity impacting your work, your life or the lives of those you lead, work for or love? Are you ready to improve communication and collaboration?  Do you want to turn reactivity around?  What difference would doing so make in your life?  I welcome your comments and or questions on the blog!

© Irene Becker, 2018

Wednesday Wisdom: From the Heart

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I chose to share my personal thoughts, stream of consciousness today because I believe that our ability to achieve greatness, our ability to transcend and transform the challenges before us is titanic.

I believe that if you are great, you can be greater! If you are stuck, you can move forward! And, if you want to become the change you seek, it is time to make a difference!  

I hope you enjoy this post and welcome your thoughts and feedback!

 

 

In a world of change, competition and uncertainty,

greatness lies in finding your greatest purpose and noblest intentions.

If you feel great, you can be greater.

If you feel powerless, stuck or consumed by pain you can use these feelings to find and build your greatest purpose and potential.

I know all about success because I have realized it.

I know about pain, loss, and struggle because I have faced them.

I know about leadership because I have been a leader.

I know all about insecurity because I have been held hostage by my own fears as well as the actions of others.

I know all about being wealthy and having the best of everything. And, I have faced poverty and struggle.

I have learned that our most important strength lies not in who we are, who we were or what we have, but in who we can become when we build our 3Q edge.

I have learned to be happier, stronger and more fulfilled in the face of uncertainty because doing so is the only way forward.

I have learned that greatness means knowing that you have the power to create what can be in your life and the lives of others.

Seize this day and this moment to feel your greatness and use it to not simply fill your pocketbook but your soul because you have a unique purpose and untouched potential.

Seize this day because you have the ability to help build a better tomorrow.

Find the pilot light that illuminates your soul and makes you stronger in the face of pain by igniting your desire to be the difference to make a difference and be the difference.

Fight against the negativity, fear, and anger that will destroy your purpose, your potential, your ability to make a positive difference.

It is the decision to take the road less traveled because those following like sheep will fall off the cliff.

It is not about your past or present, it is about realizing that your greatest power lies in who you can become.

It’s about getting stronger in the broken places, it means fighting for your best self, your noblest intentions, your greatest purpose, your unique contribution to a better world.

Greatness means developing habits of thinking and doing that drive your faith, hope, courage, humanity, and integrity.

It is a purpose that can lead you to hope, faith, courage, integrity, and humanity that will fill your pocketbook and your soul.

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

7 Ways to Turn Conflict and Communication Problems Around

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The leader who communicates well succeeds well, and communication is a linchpin for personal, professional, business success and wellbeing that is particularly critical in disruptive times!


Conflict destroys productivity, engagement, empowerment, communication, leadership, and success. 
Conflict is an emotionally charged situation that is fueled by incompatible interests, goals, feelings, ideas, values, ethnicity, personality differences, or miscommunications that destroys productivity, engagement, empowerment, communication, relationships, leadership, success, and wellbeing.

Here are some facts you need to know that are outlined in a recent article in Forbes article by David Sturt and Todd Nordstrom; The Gallup Organization notes that 70% of employees are actively disengaged, Careerbuilder.com notes that 58% of managers do not get management training and the most prevalent cause of employee disengagement and people quitting their jobs is conflict, communication problems with their boss. Click here to read more  

Yes, learning to turn conflict and communication problems around may be the most important thing you can do for your business/career, personal life, and health.  Communication is one of my three areas of professional focus because it is critical to our individual and collective success and wellbeing, and developing great communication is also an important 3Q skill!


Here are 7  proven ways to turn conflict and communication problems around; proven ways that will also help you build your 3Q Edge!

Step 1. Do NOT react; instead use the conflict at hand to build one of your most important Q skills, constructive discontent. While our first instinct, when confronted with conflict, is often to react, or retreat this is often one of the most counterproductive ways to handle conflict.  Your automatic response, a response triggered by your amygdala/your reptilian brain will be to fight or flee.  DON’t do either.

Step 2. Understand. Understand the manifestations of our automatic fight or flight response and do not react to them:

Denial – If we don’t think about it, it doesn’t exist or will go away by rationalizing or minimizing. We can deny the problem altogether, or we can deny our anxiety be becoming aggressive, confrontational or carrying a chip on our shoulder.

Avoidance – We know the conflict is there, but we don’t want to deal with it and make or find excuses to not deal with it.
Projection – Permits us to deny our own faults by projecting these faults onto others.

Reaction Formation – Adopting the traits or mannerisms of the person with whom they are engaged in conflict.

Displacement – Attacking the other person by changing the original topic of conflict, with some other unrelated complaint.

Escalation – A person will respond to the conflict by blowing it out of proportion, or expressing their own needs, by acting overly melodramatic, and appearing too needy for attention.

Pause; expect that your amygdale or reptilian brain will cause an automatic fight or flight response.  It is subconscious, it is primal, it is automatic to all human beings; and, it can be circumvented by waiting for this fight or flight reaction to pass so that we can learn to respond rather than react.


Step 3.
  Become a better listener. Take a moment to understand the objectives of the person fueling the conflict. Walk in their shoes for a few moments. Make sure you really understand what the other party wants. What do they really want, what are they feeling that is compelling them to create a conflict?  Has something done or said invalidated them in some way causing the current impasse? Is there a communication problem that has caused mutual misperceptions, perhaps misinformation?

 

Step 4. Build what I call “constructive discontent” a critical 3Q leadership and life skill that I will talk about and introduce next week. On a superficial level, constructive discontent is your ability to stay grounded and focused on your objectives, your true goals during an argument or conflict.  On a deeper level, constructive discontent is a learned skill, a leadership skills that will help YOU feel a difficult emotion, but not act upon it.  Feeling the emotion, not being held hostage by it but refocusing YOUR true objective is critical.

 

Step 5.  Focus on the shared objective. Begin again from the center of the table.  Focus on the objective you and the other person share, the common goal, rather than the difference in your proposed solutions.  If you need to discuss feelings do not be accusatory, do not invalidate the other person’s position. Reflect their position to them, make them understand they are heard AND focus on the common objective that you share.

 

Step 6. Validate.  Validate the other party’s opinion/position.  You do not have to agree, but you must let them know that you have heard their position. Alternatives must be framed in a way that does not invalidate the other person’s position but shows them how the alternative will benefit them and your shared objectives. A cooperative atmosphere is critical to building trust and to any hope of a successful resolution. Nothing can be accomplished without trust, and trust can only be engendered when both parties think cooperatively.

 

Step 7.  Agree and Resolve, if possible. When a resolution is accomplished, both parties must be clear about what they are agreeing to and abide by their agreement.  Make sure that everyone clearly understands and agrees with what has been decided.

 

What are the greatest communication challenges you face?  How would transforming them impact your work, your bottom line, and your life?  I welcome your comments and thoughts on the blog and encourage you to recognize that power of turning conflict into communication, communication into collaboration. 

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

Success Leaves Clues: Trailblazer Edition 7, John Nosta

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“If I have seen a little further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”  Isaac Newton

Is it time to step up to the plate, put on your cape and develop the mindset that will change your life and the life of others by helping you think, live, lead and succeed to purpose If you answered yes to one of these questions, you will especially enjoy my Monday posts, short profiles of people who are standing on the shoulders of giants.  People who are not afraid to be change-makers and trailblazers because they believe in our ability to create and sustain a better tomorrow, a better future.

I believe that we are standing on a glass cliff facing the greatest renaissance we have ever known or a descent into the darkness of need, greed, ego and destruction that has destroyed every fiefdom and kingdom in recorded history.  The greatest challenge we face is accepting the fact that the future must be different, and that creating a better future means adapting, changing the way we think, developing an evolution of self that drives grit, growth and positive results for all.  It is this challenge that speaks to my heart, it is this challenge that led me to develop the 3Q model and has been the pivot point in my life and work.  It is this challenge that compelled me to highlight the work of fellow trailblazers and change-makers because I believe with all my heart that we each have a role in creating a better tomorrow.

I am honored and delighted to introduce you to John Nosta, change-maker, trailblazer, and the #1 global influencer in digital health.   John has helped to guide companies, NGO’s and governments through the exponential change in the health and technology marketplaces.  (Scroll down for John’s bio)

 

Success Leaves Clues.  3 important questions, and equally important answers from, John Nosta, CEO Nostalab

  1. What has been your greatest accomplishment as a trailblazer and change-maker serving a higher purpose?
    My greatest accomplishment has been my talent for translation–to take complicated aspects of science and medicine and articulate them is a way that is both resonant and interesting to a      Specific target audience. From scientists to caregivers, it’s been my goal to empower innovation through strategic and creative communications.
  2. What do you want to be remembered for?
    It’s my hope that I’ll be remembered less for the individual innovations but for the individuals whose lives I have touched.
  3. What is your favorite quote?   “As you think, so you act. As you act, so  you become.” The Upanishads

John Nosta is a thinker and top disruptor in digital health, life sciences and the pharmaceutical industry. John is the founder of NOSTALAB—a digital health think tank.   He’s currently ranked as the #1 global influencer in digital health and is an international speaker and subject matter expert who has helped to guide companies, NGO’s and governments through the exponential change in the health and technology marketplaces.  A member of the Google Health Advisory Board, pens HEALTH CRITICAL for Forbes–a top global blog on health & technology and THE DIGITAL SELF for Psychology Today—a leading blog focused on the digital transformation of humanity.  He is also on the faculty of Exponential Medicine.  John was a research associate at Harvard Medical School and has co-authored several papers with global thought-leaders in the field of cardiovascular physiology with a focus on acute myocardial infarction, ventricular arrhythmias and sudden cardiac death. He cut his teeth big agencies including Ogilvy CommonHealth, where he has held a series of positions including Chief Creative Officer, Chief Strategic Officer and unit President before founding Nostalab.

Selected Videos from John, a small sample of his prolific work:

Wisdom from the World’s Top Digital Health Influencer

How Digital Health is the Future!

TEDx Video:  Genius is our birthright and mediocrity is self-imposed.

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

 

 

Nine Steps to Building a Thriving Organization in Disruptive Times

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Is your organization people ready to make the necessary transition from the age of information to the age of innovation?

Can you create not only a learning organization but a living organization where adaptive communication, management, and leadership thrive?  

 

Here are nine simple, but powerful steps:

1. Be a promise manager and leader. Use every opportunity to model promise management and leadership. Build the DNA of all successful relationships, trust. Do what you say, come through with the promises you make.

2. Find the DNA of success. Get coached so that you can not only build but sustain the high emotional intelligence edge, life, leadership, communication and whole brain thinking strengths that are the new currency of success.

3. Fail Forward. The only way to build and sustain success in an environment of constant change, challenge, competition is to learn to fail forward. Develop a new perspective on change, challenges, competition and failures that is relentlessly solution focused.

4. Get out of the comfort zone on a daily basis. There is nothing comfortable about the era in which we are living and leading. Learn to embrace and use moments that take you out of your comfort zone as opportunities to stretch, grow, learn and succeed.

5. Cultivate humour, optimism, and resiliency, while retaining a realistic perspective. Take time each day for a good laugh. Brain science tells us that laughter not only connects you with others but it also helps strengthen the immune system, creativity, and enhanced ideation.

6. Nurture and build collective intelligence; develop vertical and horizontal communication. Success is not achieved alone. Your people are your most important asset.

7. Build your diversity quotient. A global marketplace, a war for talent, and a diverse workforce all demand a new perspective that will allow you to understand and successfully negotiate the cultural and ethnic differences that can deride communication, effectiveness, engagement, action-ability, and results.

8.  Don’t react-respond.   Build your adaptive management and leadership skills because the era of command and control leadership is passé. Adaptive management and leadership mean keeping an eagle eye on your goals and objectives, values and vision while also building an emotionally intelligent, adaptive leadership and management style that is responsive and not reactive.

9. Positively adapt and model changes in your management and leadership style. Send the message loud and clear that positive change is where it is at. Encourage learning, growth, collaboration, and action!

Irene Becker | Just Coach

Success Leaves Clues: Trailblazer Edition 6

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I think that it is especially important to honour those who have lived a life of service and whose work has changed and saved many lives.  Mark Persaud is such a man, and I am delighted to share his answers to my 3 trailblazer questions.  And, if you want to get inspired, skip to the bottom of this post for his biography.  Kudos, Mark Persaud for being a change-maker and trailblazer who has not only inspired many and changed their lives, but also represents leadership in the truest sense of the word.

 

Success Leaves Clues.  3 important questions, and equally important answers from Mark Persaud and his inspiring bio!

What is your favourite quote? “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” – Norman Cousins

What do you want to be remembered for? I want to be remembered for fearlessness, passion, resilience, compassion and love of animals

What have been your greatest accomplishments?  (1) Assisting thousands of vulnerable persons in need through my work in the not-for-profit sector and volunteerism. (2) Being an anti-discrimination advocate.

Brief bio of Mark Persaud:  Mark M. Persaud, LL.B., LL.M., LL.D. honoris causa is a member of the Ontario Bar and held a broad range of positions with the Department of Justice as a prosecutor, counsel to the Royal Canadian Mounted Police and civil litigation counsel. He studied political science at York University and obtained his law degrees from Osgoode Hall Law School . He also studied at the Center for Study of Values in Public Life at Harvard University. He is the recipient of many awards and recognitions for his civic and public sector contributions including a Public Sector Law Gold Key Award in 2007 from Osgoode Hall Law School, both the Queen Elizabeth II Golden and Diamond Jubilee Medals for leadership and significant service to Canada and being nominated by the diplomatic community for the prestigious 2006 Seoul Peace Prize. He was twice elected to the national executive of a Federal Canadian political party and has chaired and advised on political campaigns at the federal, provincial and municipal levels. He has also been recognized as an exceptional lawyer by the Law Society of Upper Canada as part of the Lawyers Make History project as well as receiving a Doctor of Laws ( LL.D.) honoris causa in June, 2016 from the Law Society of Upper Canada.  Persaud practises in both civil and criminal litigation including in the areas of commercial and construction litigation, administrative and regulatory law and professional discipline. He has also been an adjunct law professor in the United States and a media commentator.  CLICK here to read Mark Persaud’s keynote address upon receipt of his Doctorate of Laws honoris causa from the Law Society of Upper Canada.

Irene Becker | Just Coach

 

 

How to Become the Change You Seek in Ten Minutes a Day

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How can you become the change you seek?
Today’s Wednesday Wisdom is about doing 3 things that are critical to surviving and thriving in disruptive and/or turbulent times, three things that can change YOUR life. Questions and cool tools (exercises to achieve the following 3 things follow below)

1. Develop a growth mindset
2. Become a possibility thinker
3. Embrace and appreciated the positive things in your life/career because doing so builds resiliency, strength and creative thought.


 

Questions for YOU:
•Are you dissatisfied with some aspect of your life, your relationships, your job/career, your organization, your community and/or the uncertain and turbulent state of the world?

•Perhaps you want to put an end to overwhelm and introduce the empower, engagement and growth mindset that can change your life on a multiplicity of levels?

•Do you want to feel that you have greater control or mastery over your future?

 


 

Cool Tools for YOU:  (free exercises that take 10 minutes or less a day that are transformative and life-changing if used on a consistent basis)

1.  Develop a growth mindset by turning dissatisfaction around by applying self-compassion for 5-10 minutes a day.What does that mean? Notice when you have a feeling of dissatisfaction with yourself or someone else, but instead of acting upon it or letting it build up, just watch it and let it go away.  The typical emotional will last up to 90 seconds, and learning to build constructive discontent, learning how to turn negativity around is very powerful. Click here to learn more about constructive discontent.

2.  Build a growth mindset by taking 5-10 minutes a day for positive reflection; time to look at every challenge you faced today as an opportunity for growth, learning and/or success.  Click here to for Carol Dweck’s outstanding book, Mindset:  The New Psychology of Success

3. Take control of your life by taking control of YOUR story. Your narrative, your personal dialogue and self talk will either empower your best self or disempower your greatest purpose and potential.  You are the captain of your thoughts, learning to change the way you think is coachable, doable and often life changing.  Click here to read more.

 



Thoughts for YOU to Consider:

YOU are the solution, the magic bullet and the secret to your own strength, stamina, satisfaction and success because what you think, what you believe and what you decide to feel has been scientifically proven to create YOUR reality.

Do you want to become a possibility thinker? Inspire greatness? Is it time to embrace your ability to become a success statistic, rather than a success statistic? Perhaps you want to put an end to overwhelm and introduce the empower, engagement and growth mindset that can change your life on a multiplicity of levels.  Carpe diem.

Seize this day knowing that change is not the problem, it’s the answer.  YOU can learn to develop a NEW way of thinking, a new way of communicating and even a new way of being that can change your life and the lives of others.



Actions for YOU to Consider:

Browse the blog, take a look at our new courses and programs and reach out because we will reach back!  I am passionate about our ability to not simply rise to the challenges before us, but to use them as a lever for our greatest potential because I did it, my clients have done it and it has become my life’s work to reach as many people as I can with the benefits of 3Q Personal Development and Leadership.

©Irene Becker 2018 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

 

 

Success Leaves Clues: Trailblazer Series Edition 5

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Our ability to make a positive difference, a transformational difference in society reflects the heart and soul of great leadership, and Cinnie Noble is a shining example of this leadership.  Her trailblazing, change-making and successful career include being awarded the highest achievement in Canada, The Order of Canada,  for making a social difference that made positively impacted society as well as the development of a unique conflict management system that is taught globally and 6 books.  Her many awards include:   The Diamond Jubilee Medal (Commemorative Medal in honour of the 60th anniversary of Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II accession to the Throne) 2017 • Award of Excellence in Alternative Dispute Resolution from the Ontario Bar Association

 

 

Success Leaves Clues.  3 important questions, and equally important answers from Cinnie Noble

  1. What have been your greatest accomplishments as a trailblazer and change-maker?
    I developed the first travel agency in Canada for people with disabilities for which I was appointed a Member of the Order of Canada in 1991. I became a lawyer, trained as a mediator, became a certified coach and developed a unique conflict management coaching model and one-on-one system that has helped people worldwide move through conflict while also developing competence in conflict resolution.  Authoring 6 books – 2 on conflict coaching   Conflict Mastery: Questions to Guide You (2014) and Conflict Management Coaching: The CINERGY™ Model (2011) has enabled me to extend my reach and create greater awareness for the imperative a tactics that help turn conflict around.

 

  1. What is your mission? My mission is to honour the skills I’m blessed with and those I’ve worked hard to develop to live a life of purpose – on purpose.

 

  1. What is your favourite quote?  “I don’t ask for the sights in front of me to change, only the depth of my seeing.” Mary Oliver

 

Cinnie Noble, founder of CINERGY® Coaching, a division of Noble Solutions Inc.  Cinnie is a  former social worker, lawyer, certified mediator (C.Med) and coach (PCC) who has studied and practised a range of conflict management services for over 20 years and developed her unique CINERGY conflict management/coaching model, coaching people worldwide and also, training  coaches, mediators, lawyers, HR, leaders, social workers, psychologists and others around the world, in her unique conflict resolution model.  Website:www.cinergycoaching.com

 

 

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

 

3 Ways to Prime Yourself for Success in Disruptive Times (in 10 minutes or less)

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Do you want to improve key skills;  critical thinking, problem-solving, decision making, influencing skills, communication and conflict resolution, time and energy management, delegation skills, development and leadership of teams, giving and receiving feedback, empowering others while achieving greater focus, satisfaction, and success?

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The aforementioned skills are the focus of executive coaching and are critical to your success, but at a time when change, challenges, uncertainty, and possibilities are occurring faster than ever before, we need to also develop new ways of thinking that take us forward faster, stronger and happier.

The Bad
If YOU not aware that the World Health Organization forecasts that stress/anxiety/depression will be the MAJOR causes of disability in the world by 2020 you should be.  Our dialogue around this topic is clearly avoidant, but it is those who put their heads in the sand who will be the most impacted and negatively impacted.  You can run, but you cannot hide from a silent, from an insidious problem that is destroying lives, organizations and businesses from inside out.

The Good
Today’s Wednesday Wisdom is about taking small, but important actions to help you become what Nasim Taleb described as “anti-fragile” because the greatest technical knowledge and the best people/communication skills will not be enough to help you move from NOW to HOW in your life, your career, business or community.  A whole new world demands a whole new way of thinking that takes you forward faster, smarter and happier!


The Solution-A solution that is free, powerful and takes up to 10 minutes a day.
Emotional stuff, anxiety, depression…yes, the stuff we don’t want to talk about will in the end catch up with us, but before it does here are three steps you can take as a leader to become a success statistic and NOT a stress statistic.

Cool Tool #1: Disrupt negative thinking.

Instructions: Take 2 minutes a day to think of one positive experience that’s occurred in the past 24 hours. It works because the brain can’t tell the difference between visualization and actual experience. So, you’ve just doubled the most meaningful experience in your brain. Do it for 21 days, your brain starts connecting the dots for you. This tool, The Doubler is from the great work of happiness researcher, expert, and author, Shawn Achor

Cool Tool #2:  Take control by giving up control
What?  Yes, this counter-intuitive advice is powerful because it will help you develop a critical 21st Century life, leadership and success skill, emotional agility.  Do NOT numb down an emotion, do not force yourself to be positive or try to avoid what you are feeling.
Instructions: Let yourself feel what you are feeling, label the emotion and make the choice to move past it by spending 5 minutes journaling what you are feeling and the benefits of moving past this emotion.

 

Cool Tool #3:  Recharge and Reboot.

Gratitude can not only help us to feel better, focus on the positive, get empowered but it will also build emotional agility. What you focus on grows and science tells us that we cannot be grateful and angry at the same time.
Instructions: Prepare for this cool tool by distracting your brain (do anything that takes you out of the moment (wiggling your toes, pinching your arm, touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth) so that you can focus on 3 things you are grateful for.  Close your eyes and focus on 3 things that happened today that you are grateful for.  See them, feel them, make them foremost in your mind, then journal what you are feeling!

 

Try one or all of the cool tools this week.  Remember, consistency is key.  I would be delighted to hear your results, and invite you to comment on the blog because we do not need to be on a collision course with anxiety that can insidiously erode an organization, a business, a professional practice, a life and many lives.

Carpe diem!  

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

3 Success Steps You Need to Take | Read this post in 5 minutes or less

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1. Optimize by leading change

Attitude is altitude, and keeping your attitude positive in the face of a myriad of challenges is a learned skill that can change your life. It means developing a critical “Q”  skill I call constructive discontent!  Constructive discontent refers to seeing the problems and challenges with new eyes that turn problems and challenges into friends/positive levers that create the mindset, skillset, and engagement that drives positive change.

 

 

2. Humanize by improving communication

The leader who communicates well succeeds well.   Humanizing communication, adapting your words, your tone, your body language for your audience and also learning to respond to feedback in ways that create engagement.  Humanizing communication will also help you build another key leadership competency-enhanced EQ/EI.   (emotional intelligence) that is equally important to wellness and personal success.

 

 

3. Monetize by failing forward faster and better than before.

Hone your ability and your people’s ability to fail forward, faster and better. Remember that a whole new mindset will produce new results that help you navigate the turbulence, changes, and challenges of 21st-century business and life with greater dexterity and success.

 

Anything else?  You betcha>>Click to learn about our new programs for leaders and managers!  Programs that are built for success at the speed of change!

 

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

Success Leaves Clues-Edition 3

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Kate Nasser is an author,  people-skills and customer service expert whose work has been shared in major publications and she has also won numerous awards that speak to the excellence of her programs.  In addition to a 28+ year successful career, Kate is a social media influencer and the leader of two social media Twitter Chats People Skills and Lead Morale.

What has been your greatest accomplishment as a trailblazer and change-maker?  My greatest accomplishment as a trailblazing woman business owner and change maker is awakening *everyone’s ability to close the gaps between themselves and others. I have shown leaders and teams that everyone can learn how to work better together. They have taken this same workplace awareness and ability into the world at large.  The benefits are infinite.

What do you want to be remembered for?  I would like people to remember me for giving people the inspiration and people skills to close the gaps and build bonds for success in business and happiness in life.  I would like to be remembered for developing uncommon talent for developing common bonds.

What is your fav quote (by other than yourself)?  

“People will never forget how you made them feel.” ~ Maya Angelou

 

 

KATE’S BIO:

Kate Nasser, The People Skills Coach™, is the founder and President of CAS, Inc.  Her keynotes, workshops, and consultations turn workplace interaction challenges into mega business success in leadership, morale, teamwork, and customer service. Kate is a workplace tested consultant & change partner whom clients around the world have hailed as highly effective.

See footage of her in action and testimonials from clients at https://KateNasser.com. Get Kate’s hallmark book — Leading Morale — the only book on that spells out how to *lead morale from the start instead of fixing it once it’s broken.

 

 

 

 

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

 

Feel Happier in 10 minutes or less

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Reset your GPS, adopt new ways of thinking, communicating or doing that can change your life.

First do something to distract your mind, then try using a “cool tool” (3Q exercise that is free, takes 10 minutes or less and has been proven to work!).

Learning to cultivate happiness in good times and bad is critical and doable.

 

7  Cool Tools (3Q exercises that are free, and that you can do in 10 minutes or less a day!) and excellent happiness quotes!

Quote: “If you want happiness for a lifetime-help someone else.” Chinese Proverb
Tip One →Find the light and share it with someone else.
 Step out of sadness by helping another person feel better, or be there to listen when they want to share their thoughts. Try it, because it is scientifically proven to work!

 

Quote: “Happiness never decreases by being shared.”Buddha
Tip Two:  Share a joke or funny story with someone who will appreciate it because laughter is contagious and very good for mood, cognition, and health!

 

Quote: “Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen.  Stacey Charter
Tip Three → Apply love.  Spend five minutes a day thinking about how you love yourself or learning to appreciate and love yourself.   Yes, think of all the qualities that make you special, because each human being is gifted with attributes that are truly lovable.  If you had a dysfunctional childhood, learning to re-parent yourself, learning to comfort the child within, to love him/her can be pivotal.  If you are going through a difficult experience or challenge the need to love, nurture and appreciate yourself is critical.

 

Quote:  “Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.” Winnie the Pooh
 Tip Four →Take time out each day for blank time; time when you DO not worry, time when you are just at peace and at one with the universe. Ten minutes a day of blank time can be a life changer.

 

Quote:   “We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” Frederick Keonig
Tip Five →Adopt an attitude of gratitude. Think about 3 things you are grateful for because it is impossible to feel grateful and sad at the same time. 
Keep a gratitude journal or simply make a mental note before you go to bed and when you wake up of what you are grateful for.

 

Quote:  “Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” Thich Nhat Hanh
Tip Six: → Smile because science tells us that the simple act of smiling will elevate your mood.

 

Quote:  “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”  Helen Keller
Tip Seven →Beware of the abyss and search for the light.  The longer you stare at the darkness, the more it will overwhelm you.  Look for the good, no matter how hard it is to see it because if you force yourself to look for the good will help you reset your negative GPS.

 

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” Marcus Aurelius 

More on Happiness in Disruptive, Uncertain or Turbulent Times?  YOU Betcha!  Stay tuned for next week’s Wednesday Wisdom, and the site because there is a great deal of information and cool tools to help you feel happier!

 

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

Rewire Your Brain: Get rid of negative thinking in 10 minutes or less

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Is it time to turn negativity around?  Become energized, empowered and solution focused at the speed of change, in the face of multiple challenges and on those days where the grind and stress are driving you silently crazy? Helping professionals in high stress, high change workplaces and careers minimize stress and optimize talent and success is core to my 3Q workBeat the stress trap.I have done it, my clients do it and you can do it do in less than 10 minutes a dayYes, here come the cool tools (exercises that take ten minutes or less and will help you rewire your brain by getting rid of default patterns of thinking and feeling that are impeding your greatest potential and happiness)

1. Delete:  Delete an energy stealer or inertia builder that is undermining your ability to transform challenges into solutions. Catch your self when you are thinking a negative thought, say stop or next and shift your focus.  Start right now by deleting one negative thought you have or had today that is not taking you forward.

2. Reboot: Stop the blame game,  let go of who did what, or who has what.  Reboot a better perspective by letting go of one thought that is causing you more pain than gain.  Let go, reboot and refocus on a positive goal and intention that takes you forward. The impact of one positive goal and intention is powerful.

3. Upload:  Take 2 minutes a day three times a day to be positive, to let go of any negative thoughts and beliefs. Click on the blue text for a simple,  but powerful exercise you can do almost anywhere.  An exercise that will help you build greater mindfulness, enhanced focus, improved resilience and also improves focus and ideation.

4. Repower: Schedule your day with blank time, time between meetings, time between commitments where you can simply recharge.  Science has documented the powerful benefits of blank time to cognition, health, focus and resiliency.  Diarize your blank time whether it is 5 minutes, 10 minutes or 20 minutes, because giving your brain a rest will only make you think smarter, feel better and increase your focus and effectiveness.

Carpe diem.  Delete-Reboot-Upload-Recharge in as little as 10 minutes a day.  You will be glad you did!
©Irene Becker, 2018

 

 

 

 

 

Success Leaves Clues | Edition 1

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1. Embrace your ability to be the change and make a change.
2. Change is the answer. Human beings have survived due to their adaptability.
3. Become relentlessly solution driven, turn default negative settings around.  Build your 3Q Edge™, your greatest advantage in disruptive times.

 

Success leaves clues, and so does great leadership.  Enjoy this interview with James Strock, Trailblazer and Change-maker

James Strock is a trailblazer and change-maker who has made a profound difference in public organizations, government and companies through his work as an entrepreneur and reformer.  He is also a prolific writer who is the author of one of my FAVORITE leadership books, Serve to Lead 2.0, a book that should be the leadership manual for every 21st-century leadership curriculum.

  1. What has been your greatest accomplishment as a trailblazer and change-maker serving a higher purpose? I’ve been blessed to be granted multiple opportunities to start up and/or bring change to institutions and enterprises. My service as environmental secretary for California and chief of law enforcement for USEPA each involved reform and renewal of agencies during turbulent times. My added value was largely from identifying and supporting talented teams. That kind of entrepreneurial approach is the thread runs through my work over the years.
  2. At what age did you realize that you wanted to make a powerful difference in the world? Without according such generous characterizations to myself, I’ve always had an outsider’s vantage point. This prompted me to challenge, without the reservations of insiders, what I perceived to be disappointing elements in the status quo. Looking back, I think a decisive time in my development occurred at age 16. I sought and was granted the opportunity to produce and moderate a weekly television program on the NBC affiliate in New Orleans, where I was in high school. At that time, there were only three major networks and PBS. Digital technology and cable were in the future. Through this experience, I was exposed to a number of remarkable people who generously consented to be guests. They ranged from politicians to entertainers to journalists to medical pioneers. What they all had in common was leadership in their realms. This was an extraordinary education that fueled my capacity to serve.
  3. What has been the most important event in your life? This is an interesting question that one could take in any number of directions. Let me say that it’s the fall of the Berlin Wall in 1989. This was part of a historical earthquake, arguably the beginning of the end of the wars and associated totalitarian ideologies that wracked Europe and then the world beginning in 1914. I had the privilege of witnessing this remarkable moment first-hand in Berlin during New Year 1989-90. This is the greatest historical event of my lifetime to-date, without a doubt. It has had a great effect in my life and work, even though I’m an American, geographically distant. There was a transcendent flash, when the consciousness of people simultaneously altered, transforming apparently impregnable realities. When the spirit of the peoples of Central Europe came together as one, the ongoing demoralization of the Russian occupiers and their vicious apparatus gave way. The massed armaments and organized violence that ruled ruthlessly, in some cases non-stop for decades under various flags, could not withstand the simultaneous awakening of the people. Among my personal takeaways is the confidence–the faith–that transformational change can occur, no matter how unlikely it appears. In the words of Nelson Mandela, architect of another historic moment, “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
  4. What do you want to be remembered for? I would like to be a source of encouragement for others, helping them reach their potential. I strive to do that throughout my life and work. My work in leadership development is intended in large part to transmit and translate values and hard-earned wisdom from prior generations. Such history is very much a living thing and can provide actionable context for current challenges. Most importantly, it also links our efforts to rising generations, who should always be front and center in our minds and spirit. What is your favorite quote? As a voracious reader, I have many, many quotations that are favorites in various ways. If there is one setting where anyone must choose one sentiment over all others, it’s an epitaph. One of my favorites is from the English Labour Party leader, Tony Benn. To represent his ultimate service amid a wide-ranging, active life, Benn selected a concise message for his tombstone: “He encouraged us.” That is an ideal that I also strive for.
  5. What advice would you give your 20-year-old self? Strive to be the best listener not only that you know, but that you know of. Never miss an opportunity to be kind.

 

 


James Strock
is an independent entrepreneur and reformer in business, government, and politics. A prolific writer, James Strock has authored His most recent book is the second edition of Serve to Lead: 21st Century Leaders Manual.
website: https://servetolead.org  Wikipedia bio: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Strock

 

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach

Rewire Your Brain to be Positive and Achieve Success

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Let’s cut through complexity to the heart of your power, your potential, your ability to negotiate change, challenges and see the opportunities before you.  The following guest post by international leadership guru, author, and speaker, Professor Rao, speaks to our ability to rewire our brains for increased positivity and success.  It is a topic that I am passionate about as it is the foundation of my work, mission and 3Q model/philosophy.  Change is not the problem, it’s the answer and it is our ability to change and adapt that has paved the way for our growth and survival from our earliest historical beginnings to the present. (Scroll to the bottom for a link to Cool Tools, exercises you can do in 10 minutes or less a day to recharge, refocus, and rewire your brain for positivity and success!)


How to Rewire Your Brain to be Positive and Achieve Success by Professor M.S. Rao, Ph.D

“Leadership means building a new bridge, a stronger bridge between what is and what can be because the future lies in the courage, integrity, and wisdom of those who dare to lead, learn, and succeed forward.” —Irene Becker, Just Coach It, 3Q Leadership Expert

Most problems in the world are the result of negative thinking and lack of empathy. Research shows that humans produce approximately 70,000 thoughts per day and most of them are negative.  We often find television channels and media bombarding with loads of negative information to pollute the minds of the viewers. The media highlights negativity to invite the attention of the humans quickly and exploits their weaknesses to ensure their survival. Even the people with positive thinking develop negative thinking assuming that the world is negative. It is only exceptional individuals and intellectuals who understand these facts and combat negativity. In this regard, we will explore tools to rewire your brain to be positive and achieve success.


Tools to Rewire Your Brain

“You cannot sit back and wait to be happy and healthy and have a great thought life; you have to make the choice to make this happen. You have to choose to get rid of the toxic and get back in alignment with God. You can be overwhelmed by every small setback in life, or you can be energized by the possibilities they bring.” ― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

The people with high EQ (Emotional Quotient) are more successful than the people with high IQ (Intelligence Quotient) because they successfully rewired their brains by getting along with others and exploring opportunities with an open mind. Hence, developing high EQ helps greatly to rewire your brain. Here are some tools to rewire your brain to be positive. Strengthen your subconscious mind with a positive frame of mind. Give positive commands to your subconscious mind to evolve as a healthy individual. Practice for 21 days. Think positive instead of negative. Don’t look at the future based on your unpleasant experiences and events. Learn lessons from failures instead of brooding over them. Develop confidence and optimism. Believe in yourself. Change the way you perceive the world. Surround with positive people to create positive vibrations.  Reflect your thoughts regularly. Go for a walk or gym to energize your body and mind. Clear your mind from clutter through meditation. Be creative by following a different path or route. Avoid complaining, criticizing and condemning others. Instead, see positive in others. Praise people liberally. Make them feel important.

John B. Arden, in his book, Rewire Your Brain: Think Your Way to a Better Life offers four-fold sage advice as follows: Feed your brain now that you have a better idea of how the brain works, let’s focus on a method of rewiring your brain that involves the following four steps: Focus, Effort, Effortlessness and Determination (FEED). Focus allows you to pay attention to what’s happening here and now, and this starts the process of neuroplasticity. Effort shifts your attention from perception to action. Making a focused effort activates your brain to establish new synaptic connections. In the beginning, it takes focus, effort, and more energy in your brain, but after you make the swing or say hello enough times, it becomes effortless. Thus, to rewire your brain you’ll have to stay with the new behavior long enough to make it become fairly automatic. In time, practice will make it effortless. Your brain won’t have to work as hard once you reach this level. The final step in feeding your brain is staying in practice. Do the activity again and again. Being determined in this way need not be tiring and painful. If you practice the other three steps in feeding your brain, by the time you get to this one, it should come easily. That’s because effortlessness precedes it. Thus, determination simply means that you stay in practice. By being determined, you’ll complete the feeding process to rewire your brain.

Irene Becker, in her article titled, ‘Building And Sustaining Great Leadership In Disruptive Times Possibility Thinking, Communicating, And Doing: A 3Q Leadership™ Solution’ in Wiley’s Leader to Leader Journal offers some simple and powerful cool tools that you can easily integrate into your day such as identifying the path (walking/driving) you prefer, then taking a different one; experimenting with taking one old habit every week and tossing it out the window or changing it in your personal life; walking down a street you are familiar with and searching for something you have never seen or noticed before; uplifting your posture; stretching your strengths by applying them in new ways; writing a few sentences in the reverse direction, or with your opposing hand; embracing new experiences; changing at least one routine every day; pausing for ten seconds before you respond, taking your ego (need to be validated) out of the equation and refocusing your objective; taking charge of tension by releasing it, fast; clenching whatever part of your body is tense, and release it; practicing mindfulness for five to ten minutes a day; sipping ice water; moving more; and laughing more, and smiling more because laughing gives your brain an aerobic workout and is an excellent stress reliever and mood booster and smiling automatically elevates your mood.

Overcome your psychological and physical limitations by rewiring your brain. Some people are hardwired with superstitions. They find it difficult to overcome them. It is possible to overcome by rewiring their brains.  Take up one bad practice in a day and rewire your brain with good practice. After achieving success, take up another bad practice to overcome by rewiring. In this way, you can get out of your bad practices to excel as a healthy individual. Remember, rejections make you stronger in life. Just because people failed, they should not give up on their passions and endeavors. Eminent inventors and entrepreneurs are smart in rewiring their brains. That is why they succeeded in their lives and made a difference to the world. For instance, Edison invented the bulb and Colonel Sanders founded KFC by rewiring their brains.

Conclusion

“By focusing on possibilities, you can see more than a potential light at the end of the tunnel. The light doesn’t have to be at the end of the tunnel; it can illuminate an opportunity wherever you are.” ―John B. Arden, Rewire Your Brain: Think Your Way to a Better Life

People often complain that they cannot break their bad habits which is a myth. Breaking bad habits helps you unlock your hidden potential and acquire knowledge, skills, and abilities effortlessly. It is rightly remarked that below average people talk about individuals, average people talk about issues and above average people talk about ideas. Rewire your brain to explore ideas and insights to excel as a role model for others and stand out as a leader.  Everything is possible in this world and everything can be changed in the world by rewiring your brain. To summarize, don’t be influenced by outdated dogmas. When you want to overcome your bad practices, you must rewire your brain. When you want to learn, unlearn and relearn, you must rewire your brain. When you want to grow as a leader, you must rewire your brain.

“You are not a victim. You can control your reactions. You do have a choice.” ― Caroline Leaf, Switch On Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health

References
Rewire Your Brain: Think Your Way to a Better Life by John B. Arden (Wiley; 1 edition, March 22, 2010)

Building And Sustaining Great Leadership In Disruptive Times:  Possibility Thinking, Communicating, And Doing: A 3Q Leadership™ Solution by Irene Becker (Wiley; Leader to Leader Journal, March 2017)

Author Bio

Professor M.S. Rao, Ph.D., is the Father of “Soft Leadership”, Founder of MSR Leadership Consultants, C-Suite advisor, international speaker and the author of 37 books including the award-winning 21 Success Sutras for CEOs  He is passionate about serving and making a difference in the lives of others, he shares his wisdom and his 4 blogs and wants to build one million students as global leaders by 2030   Contact: msrlctrg@gmail.com.

 

Cool Tools-Ten Minute a Day (or Less) 3Q Tools to Recharge, Refocus,  Rewire Your Brain for Positivity and Success!

 

Irene Becker, Executive Coach  irene@justcoachit.com

 

 

 

 

Two Minute Reflection on Leadership, Failure and Success

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Make that critical shift forward.

Be a promise manager and leader who fails forward


Use every opportunity to model promise management

and leadership.

Build the DNA of all successful relationships, trust.

 

Do what you say, come through with the promises you make and when something goes wrong and you fail…


fess up to the error and teach your people the power of learning to fail forward. 

Model it, teach it, encourage it because the sheer velocity of change means that the best and brightest among us will fail, and those who fail forward will win.

 

Irene Becker | Just Coach It -The 3Q Edge
Grit, growth communication & greatness in disruptive times
My one word is #inspire.  My passion is #leadership

 

Empowerment and Success in Disruptive/Uncertain Times-10 Minute Cool Tool #2

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Inspire yourself, because doing so will take you forward faster than before.

If you want to benefit from the following cool tool(free and often life-changing exercise that can be done in 10 minutes or less), you need to practice it every day.  If you want to help contribute to the success of others and to inspire/motivate positive change, grit, and growth, I encourage you to post your comments and experiences on the blog.

Last week we learned about a ten-minute Cool Tool to prime yourself for a successful a day and build your 3Q Edge. Click here for last week’s post-10 minute cool tool by Anthony Robbins.

After or before you have primed yourself for success, it is critical to make sure that you have found your Happy spot (H spot) Everyone is different.  Some people need to tune into their H spot before their priming exercise, others prefer to do so after they have done their morning success priming.  Go with your gut and find out what works for you.

 

 

Cool Tool # 2:  Get Happy NOW!

Have you ever had one of those bad days that started with stubbing your toe, or some kind of negative experience that occurred the moment you got up?  We all have and we have also experienced days in which the negativity followed us throughout the day and everything that could go wrong seemed to do so.

What is the solution to this problem?  How can you set yourself up for success?  Build emotional intelligence, grit and a feeling of empowerment that takes you forward faster, smarter and happier?

After you have completed your priming exercise (read post 1) you need to make sure that YOU are feeling positive, empowered and ready to attack the day with enthusiasm.

Is it time to put on your invisible cape?  Create a space for greatness? Actualize your personal and professional ability in disruptive and uncertain times? Scroll down to enjoy this week’s  Wednesday Wisdom, a cool tool (ten minute 3Q exercise-free, simple and powerful) that you can incorporate into your daily routine.

What can you do before or after you have primed yourself for success?  Find your H Spot, your happy space.  Make yourself laugh, give yourself time to smile and feel confident.  Here are three different ways to accomplish this goal.  Three Cool Tools (exercises that take less than 10 minutes that you can incorporate in your day.

1.  As a round person, I have found that jumping naked in front of the bathroom mirror first thing in the morning is fabulous.  It is hard to keep a straight face or to hold energized feelings down when you are jumping up and down!

2.  Make happiness your focus.  DO one simple thing that will make you feel happy.  It does not matter how silly this thing is, what matters is that you find your happy spot before breakfast or coffee.

3. Get rid of toxic/negative emotions by writing them on a piece of paper, crumpling it and throwing it away.

Carpe diem.  It’s your time to shine!Try this cool tool out every day for the next week.  You will be very surprised at the important and powerful effect it will have on your life and work.

3Q  has helped executives, entrepreneurs and professions achieve breakthrough results in disruptive and uncertain times.  It began as a method that helped me successfully negotiate the type of life and career crises that changed my world as I knew it.  Whether you are facing a difficult challenge or you simply want to make yourself anti-fragile, bulletproof in a world of relentless change, I encourage you to follow the Wednesday Wisdom and try the cool tools I post on for size and fit!

Are you ready to go from Now to HOW?  Get re-inspired by what you can achieve at the speed of change/challenges? Recharge, refocus, repurpose, repower your communication, leadership and life edge? We are here to help!

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Empowerment & Success in Disruptive/Uncertain Times: 10 minute cool tool #1

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Paint a new picture-get a new result

Your ability to change your perspective, to develop cognitive and emotional dexterity is as real as it is critical.  And, building your 3Q Edge, your ultimate advantage, is both challenging, inspiring and fun!  Yes, you CAN recognize and engage your strengths while using challenges, changes, stressors, and frustrations to leverage your greatest potential.

New mindset = new result
Easier said than done?  Think again.  Change is your greatest strength.

You can do this and I am going to tell you how you can build Q strengths, strengths that help you build your best life and career.  Strengths that help YOU contribute to a better tomorrow. It is my mission to help as many people as possible not be part of the World Health forecast that anxiety and depression will be the major cause of physical disability in the world by 2020!

Uplevel your enthusiasm-prime yourself for success in your life and career;

Yes, you can achieve in a VUCA (volatility, uncertainty, complexity, ambiguity) world.  REALIZE your ability to develop a NEW relationship with change, challenges, uncertainty even failures that takes you forward faster, smarter and happier. It is my mission to help you empower, engage and transform what is into what CAN be in your life, leadership, and career; it’s my mission to help you build your 3Q Edge.

The way you start the day is critical to your health, success, and happiness!  Learning to prime yourself for focus, positivity, energy can be life-changing.

If you up on the wrong side of the bed, you need to turn this around as quickly as you can.  Upside, you have the power to change your mindset, you have the power to increase your ability to focus, and getting started is simple. Remember, new mindset-new result.  You cannot build a fire with WET wood.  You will not be able to have your best day, achieve maximum success or happiness with negativity or sadness holding you down.

 CLICK here for a 10-minute priming exercise from Tony Robbins, a great cool tool** to use and to share.  Try it out every morning and share the difference it has made in your life with us on the blog!

 

**I call exercises that are free, fantastic, build 3Q skills AND can be done in 10 minutes or less a day “COOL TOOLS“, and I will be sharing my Cool Tools and the cool tools of thought leaders and change-makers to help you achieve maximum value in minimal time**

Anything else?  Carpe Diem.  Here’s a 3-minute cool tool to turn your positive power up and on, no matter what kind of day you are having! Take a 3-minute break from whatever you are doing and simply think about 3 things you are grateful for and wiggle your toes!  This simple exercise will reset your mood.

 

Podcasts and interviews I’ve done that you may enjoy.
Interview on 3Q Leadership by #1 expert in Intelligent Leadership and #3 Executive Coach, John Mattone
Radio Interview by Deb Scott:  From Pain To Gain In Life And Career
Web TV Interview by Shannon Skinner:  Extraordinary Women Leading In The Face Of Challenges

 

Are you ready to go from Now to HOW?  Get re-inspired by what you can achieve at the speed of change/challenges? Recharge, refocus, repurpose, repower? We are here to help!

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The Power of YOUR Story-New Edition

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BEWill your story help you engage and sustain your best self or keep you stuck in a rut? Many of us have a problem looking at the challenges we face with new eyes, especially when the challenge me face is our own story. The way you see your life will determine whether YOUR story will empower you to achieve your greatest potential or keep you from truly achieving your heart’s desire. Read more

 

 

© Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | (IQ-EQ-SQ) Reach-Resonance-Results
3Q Leadership™ Blog- 58,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!  

The stories we tell ourselves become our worlds.  Perspective is everything, consciousness drives our ability to evolve or devolve, and the desire to make sense of our personal story is something a task that our brain is hard-wired to perform.

The power of YOUR story must be mined because its power lies not in what you have accomplished or not accomplished, but  in the pivot points, the accomplishments that touch your heart, the wins that are milestone markers AND moments of challenge that (if properly used) can help you develop a new sense of self, a better view of your own potential.

From birth to death, the power of our own personal story follows us, and it’s ability to inspire our best self, our best work and help us build our best life is as real as it’s power to create disempowerment, underachievement, overachievement at any cost.

What is YOUR story?  How will you look upon your journey with eyes that will help you see your strengths with greater clarity, and use challenges, failures as a lever for your greatest potential? Q1: improved focus, ideation, innovative thought  Q2: improved resiliency, risk tolerance, empowerment, communication, collaboration  Q3: enhancement of the intrinsic motivators, the timeless values that drive sustainability-courage, integrity, purpose

The power of your story is the fire that can light the power of your greatest potential.  Your ability to see your story with new eyes, eyes that build on three Q skills starts with your desire to look at your story and the story of others with eyes that search a meaning and purpose that aligns with the courage, integrity, purpose, humanity required to take us all forward as one people sharing one planet. In a world of constant change, challenges, competition; at a time of titanic paradox where our ability to develop technological, scientific advances that are REMARKABLE remain dimmed by social, economic, environmental, organizational problems...Your story, my story, our stories and the way we choose to see them can either enhance or reduce our ability to build better lives, better organizations and contribute to a better world.

What is your story?  How will you use it to empower your greatest potential?  How will you listen to the stories of those you lead, work for, befriend and love?  The challenge to see our own stories with new eyes and hear the stories of others with new ears calls to us all!  The call to build new ways of thinking, new ways of listening that take us forward is upon us!  Answering this call is a powerful step forward.

More On  Personal Development-Empowerment-Optimization of Potential?  YOU BETCHA!
Posts, Podcasts, and Web TV Interviews!

There Is Only One Story That Matters
  I Will Not Be Broken
Lighting The Fire Of Human Potential:  Developing A Purposeful Life And Career
Building Essential Success Skills That GROW At The Speed Of Change
Ten Ways To Lead Forward In Times Of Complexity And Change
Remove The Wall To Your Greatest Potential
Using Failure To SUCCEED-Practical Tips
The Secret To Personal Development And Growth
Constructive Discontent:  Building A Critical 3Q Life And Leadership Skill
Two Minute Tune Up For Over-Achievers And Under-Achievers

Podcasts and Interviews
Radio Interview by Deb Scott:  From Pain To Gain In Life And Career
Web TV Interview by Shannon Skinner:  Extraordinary Women Leading In The Face Of Challenges

 

Are you ready to go from Now to HOW?  Get re-inspired by what you can achieve at the speed of change/challenges? Recharge, refocus, repurpose, repower? We are here to help!

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There is Only One Story that Matters

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There is only one story that matters.

It’s not the story of who you are, where you have been or what you have acquired.

It’s the story that speaks to you in moments of wonder and awe; and whispers to you when you are at your lowest moments or facing your greatest failure, pain or loss.

It is a story that ignites YOUR purpose, YOUR ability, and YOUR courage because this story is bigger than you, and it is bigger than me.

It is the story that is the seedbed your greatest potential, your most heartfelt collaboration, your greatest innovations and a new type of communication that builds a bridge across cultural and generational divides.

It is the story of all that is great, purposeful and worthwhile and it is within your reach if you dare to care, if you realize your ability to adapt, evolve and thrive in ways that drive your best self, best work and best life.

And, I can tell you that when you find your story when you realize your ability to take control of who you are, of what you will share and contribute you will embrace a new day, a new path in life that will take you forward happier, smarter and faster than before.

A new path that is a path of gratitude, purpose, and commitment; a new path of enlightened leadership that will change and touch your life and the lives of others in ways you did not realize were possible.

It is a story that will help you become a possibility thinker who is taking a new path, exploring a new passion by learning to use what is to create what can be in YOUR life and the lives of others….

Because the way forward will be very different from the past, and the imperative to make it better than what was speaks to us all.

Next Monday I will start sharing thoughts of the day AND the biography and thoughts of real-life heroes, trailblazers and champions who are building better lives and futures for themselves and others.  Friends and colleagues, special people in business, the arts, the professions who are trailblazers; people like (in alphabetical order) Kare Anderson, Mark S. Babbitt, Michael Ballard, Wayne Clancy,  Peter Cook, Fields Jackson, Jr., Donna D. May, Kate Nasser, Tanveer Naseer, Cinnie Noble, Mark Persaud ,
Frank Sonnenberg,  
James Strock and more!

Enjoy the articles on this blog, articles that speak to our individual and collective ability to adapt, evolve and thrive; our ability to build three critical strengths that drive our best selves, communication, work and lives in disruptive times.  Click here to learn about 3Q benefits why I have dedicated my life to this work.

There is only one story that matters and it is the story of YOUR purpose, YOUR ability, YOUR courage to take back control of who you really are and what you have to contribute.  Carpe diem

© Irene Becker, 2018

 

 

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Motivational Monday: Happiness & Success

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Get inspired and motivated because science confirms that you can prime your brain for greater happiness and success.  Choose one step and try it out every day this week because you’ll be surprised at the difference one small step can make in your happiness and success!

Ten Tips to Prime Your Brain for Success (originally published on Jesse Stoner’s blog)

“I appreciated  this video of Irene Becker, first female CEO of a steel company in Canada, where she shared her personal story of great achievements and losses. Her experience uniquely positions her as an expert on the topic of the relationship between happiness and success. ” Jesse Lyn Stoner

 

10 Tips to Prime Your Brain for Success

➣ That’s right. Happiness must come before success. Staying stuck in a negative rut, dwelling on problems versus being solution oriented will not help you succeed, and it will contribute to what the World Health Organization tells us will be the major cause of disability by 2020—stress, negativity, disengagement.

➣ What exactly does brain science tell us? Most of us were trained to think that success leads to happiness. We now know, through neuroimaging and other longitudinal scientific studies, that achieving success in a rapidly changing and often chaotic world, workplace and marketplace demands a whole new skill set.

Here are

1. Talk nice to yourself! Celebrate every win in your mind’s eye no matter how small. Pay attention to the positive.

2. Connect, get social. Talk to people you care about; talk to people you work with. Make social connections.

3. Hug. Hugs stimulate oxytocin, the “love hormone,” spreading a feel-good boost.

4. Make love. Yes, it’s no surprise that lovemaking boosts happiness levels!

5. Keep a gratitude journal. Writing about what you are thankful for both helps retrain your brain to be more optimistic and positively impacts your health!

6. Get physical. Physical activity is a significant happiness booster. Exercising for 30 minutes a day can take up to 7 years off your chronological age! And, it eases stress, improves sleep, strengthens immunity, and increases happiness.

7. Help others. Altruism makes us happier and stronger. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, hospital, or shelter.

8. Go outside, spend time with Mother Nature. It will make you feel more alert, enthusiastic, energetic, and happy.

9. Take two minutes or less to be mindful! If you don’t meditate regularly, spend a few minutes several times a day being mindful of your breathing.

10. Get silly, embrace the kid in you. Enjoy a good joke, watch a funny video, smile, enjoy a great comedy. Laughing is a great way to exercise your brain and give your body a mini aerobic workout!

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.  Priming your brain to be positive will help you achieve greater success and well-being. It is time to win the most important war we face; a silent war that is eroding purpose, potential and sustainability every day.  The World Health Organization says that anxiety and depression will be the leading cause of physical disability in the world by 2020. If you are not unhappy, and if your potential is not being limited, someone you know, work for, lead or love is stuck in a rut, a thinking rut, an emotional rut that can destroy their life.  Read about winning the silent war before us.

More?  You Betcha
Essential Reading for CEO’s and Leaders
Happiness Recovery:  Ten Actionable Steps
How to Survive and Thrive in Times of Uncertainty
The Secret to Personal Development and Growth
I Will Not Be Broken-The Call to Build a Better Future

3Q Leadership and Why I Have Dedicated My Life to this Work

Are you ready to use what is to create what can be in yourself, your team, your business or organization? Develop the 3Q Leadership strengths that move mountains and molehills? Bust toxic stress?  Recharge, refocus and repurpose with a lunch and learn, workshop or keynote?  Reach out and I will reach back:  irene@justcoachit.com 

Expert Interview Series:  How Leadership is Changing | John Mattone-Irene Becker


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For Powerful Results in Disruptive/Turbulent Times
Irene (1) 416-671-4726  Skype:  beckerirene
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Email:  irene@justcoachit.com

 

Motivational Monday: Engage your greatest power

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Creating a New Future Step 5 of 7 

How can you create a new future? A better tomorrow?  Survive and thrive in the face of uncertainty and chaos by developing 3Q strengths in as little as ten minutes a day. I have dedicated my life to helping others build their 3Q edge, with simple steps that are backed by science and hands-on experience.  Steps that have changed my life and the lives of my clients. This post is fifth in a series of 7.  If you have not read the previous four posts scroll to the bottom for links to these articles. Read more, click here for 3Q Benefits and why I have dedicated my life to this work.

Step Five is Resetting YOUR GPS in 10 minutes a day. Reset and reboot with “Cool Tools”, five to ten-minute daily rituals that keep you on your A-game, help you reset default patterns of thinking, communicating or doing that no longer work…AND, help you bust toxic stressYou can make a difference, but doing so means realizing that you CAN rewrite default patterns of thinking, feeling or executing. It means putting on your leadership shoes by engaging your ability think smarter and differently (IQ-Q1), feel, communicate and collaborate better (EQ-Q2) while developing your spiritual quotient-alignment with the highest values and purpose (SQ-Q3) that drive and sustain success. Read more

Carpe diem.  Take 5-10 minutes each day to reset your GPS, change a habitual way of thinking, communicating or doing!

  • Try writing a few sentences in the reverse direction, or with your opposing hand every day for the next week.
  • Uplift your posture and take a 5 or 10 minute time out from stress. Go for a walk, do “The Pause”, shift your thoughts to a pleasant location or experience. There are few more powerful ways to raise and sustain energy than to ease your posture upward, which frees your breathing and raises your energy level.
  • Change one routine every day.

Click here for more cool tools

What we face is nothing in comparison with our ability to empower, engage and transform; our ability to adapt, evolve and thrive by building our 3Q Edge.  The lessons I have learned on my journey, my studies and dedication to my craft have touched my head and heart with positivity, courage, and possibility thinking because our ability to use what is to create what can be in our lives and the lives of others is real.

More?  You Betcha
 Survive and Thrive in Times of Uncertainty and Chaos
Survive and Thrive-Step 1
Survive and Thrive-Step 2
Survive and Thrive-Step 3
Survive and Thrive-Step 4

Get inspired. Build your leadership,  career and personal edge in disruptive times! Contact us to find out about 3 to Thrive and other great new programs!

Coaching, Consulting & Keynotes with a 3Q Edge
Irene (1) 416-671-4726  Skype:  beckerirene
Irene’s assistant, Drew Jones, (1) 737-5075
Email:  irene@justcoachit.com    drew@justcoachit.com
Irene Becker | Just Coach It
Your Catalyst for Success at the Speed of Change

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Surviving and thriving in times of uncertainty and chaos is critical to our individual and organizational survival.  It has been the focus of a series of 7 posts sharing 7 simple but powerful ways to develop what I call your 3Q Edge-your ability to think, feel communicate and execute in new ways that drive and sustain your best thinking, improved emotional strengths, better communication and execution in disruptive or turbulent times.

If you have not followed the series, click here for step 1, click here for step 2, click here for step 3.

 

Step #4  is Self Awareness 

Self awareness is the first step in leadership development and critical to the emotional and cognitive adaptability, improved creativity, collaboration and a greater sense of purpose and fulfillment are critical to our individual and collective survival.

Dedicate 10 minutes a day to a better YOU! Pick a cool tool (10-minute exercise)  that works for you and use it daily for the next week.

1. Stream of consciousness writing.
Take 10 minutes to just write whatever comes to mind as soon as you get up in the morning.  Do not censor your writing, just write.  Not sure where to start?  Start with how you are feeling and continue writing for 7 to 10 minutes.

2. Keep a gratitude journal.

Keeping a gratitude journal will not only build self-awareness but greater happiness!  Take a few minutes before you go to sleep to write what you are grateful for.

3. Write a personal manifesto and read it to aloud or in your mind’s eye 2-3 times a day.

What things do you stand for? What are your strongest beliefs? How do you want to live your life? What do you want to accomplish? Your personal manifesto is a statement of focus/power and an excellent call to action. Delighted to share timeless steps to building your manifesto by Jone Bosworth  Read more

Repetition is the mother of success in terms of learning new skills or changing behaviours.

Self Awareness is critical to your personal, professional/business success, and it is a learned skill that can help you make positive changes that drive self-confidence, empowerment, a greater awareness/understanding of yourself and others.  Read more

An interview by #1 Expert in Intelligent Leadership and #2 Executive Coach in the world, John Mattone led to my doing a certification in Intelligent Leadership and Executive Coaching with the master!
Read more

It would be impossible to end the year without thanking John Mattone for his great work, books and the opportunity to study under his direction!   More about Intelligent Leadership and Executive Coaching next year! Read more

Carpe diem.  Take this moment to recognize your ability to survive and thrive, your ability to make a difference and be the difference in your life and the lives of others, because that is what 3Q leadership is ALL about! Read more

 

More?  You Betcha!

Find out where you stand with our 10-minute Career and Life Self Assessment.

 

 

Get inspired. Build your leadership,  career and personal edge in disruptive times! Contact us to find out about 3 to Thrive and other great new programs!

Live, Lead, Succeed to Purpose in Disruptive Times
Discover Coaching, Consulting & Keynotes with a 3Q Edge
Irene (1) 416-671-4726  Skype:  beckerirene
Irene’s assistant, Drew Jones, (1) 737-5075
Email:  irene@justcoachit.com    drew@justcoachit.com
Irene Becker | Just Coach It
Your Catalyst for Success at the Speed of Change

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Three Ways to Thrive

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How will disruption and turbulence impact your work, your life, your emotional and physical health; your ability to thrive? The World Health Organization tells us that stress and depression will be the leading cause of disability in the world by 2020. Yes, if you are not suffering from anxiety or depression someone you know, lead, work for or love is.  It is time to recognize that default patterns of thinking will not take us forward, times of great change demand leadership that helps us adapt, evolve and thrive.  Read more

You have the power and you are the answer because there is nothing you can buy or learn that will take YOU forward without changing the way you think.  I have run a successful business, been a trailblazer who lived a life many dream of, but I have also faced a litany of challenges (career, business, life, and health) that would have crushed many people.  The most important lesson of all is that only YOU have the keys to the kingdom, only YOU can change your perspective in ways that sustain the faith, hope, courage, integrity, and humanity that can help you keep going, help you survive and thrive. Read more

Here are 3 free steps to help you start thriving in disruptive times.
 Steps I call “Cool Tools” because they take less than 10 minutes.  I have a library of many steps, the following three steps are a great way to start building your 3Q Edge (IQ-EQ-SQ).   Pick ONE step and try it on for size for 7 days.  DO it consistently for a week, and post your results on the blog or send them to me privately (irene@justcoachit.com)

  1. Cultivate the power of the present moment, build your ability to be in the NOW. Start doing so by thinking of 3 things you are grateful for because we cannot retain negative emotions when feeling grateful.   Appreciate this moment because you are alive, you are here for a purpose that you were meant to fulfill.  Retrain your brain by developing an attitude of gratitude AND developing greater positivity.
  2. Give yourself 90 second window-3 minutes to optimize! Yes, we can all find 3 minutes and if you use these 3 minutes three times a day, you will see positive results within a week. CLICK here to try the PAUSE 3-minute exercise. Science confirms that taking a small amount of time each day to be in prayer, contemplation, meditation or chanting can change your life by making you more resilient, focused, positive driving improved emotional and physical health. (even longevity).
  3. Keep your flame going. Do something to help someone else.  Drown out what’s wrong and feed your ability to contribute by sharing a smile, helping a friend, colleague or a stranger, mentoring a team member.  The smallest things can make a powerful difference in the lives of others, and being of service will also make you feel GOOD.

Life presents us with choices.  Carpe diem, take this moment to recognize your ability to be the difference and make a difference!  Give one of these three tools a try consistently for a week and let me know your results.

Get inspired. Recharge, refocus, repurpose, repower. Build your leadership, communication, career and personal edge in disruptive times!  Find out about 3 to Thrive and other new programs.
Reach out and we will reach back!


Irene (1) 416-671-4726  Skype:  beckerirene
Irene’s assistant, Drew Jones, (1) 737-5075
Email:  irene@justcoachit.com    drew@justcoachit.com
Irene Becker | Just Coach It
Your Catalyst for Success at the Speed of Change

Monday Motivation: Success school with Evan Carmichael

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53 Confidence Boosting Actions You Can Take Today

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Team Building Toolkit-25 Tips!

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Success is NOT achieved alone. If your team is not effective, your results will be poor.    

What team building activities have worked the best for YOUR team?  What is the greatest team building challenge you face? Sharing 25 team building tips for your toolkit!

 

 

1. Have a clear mission. Start with the common anchor, the objectives and values you share.  Internalize them, mention them, and ignite them because they are the fuel for your greatest individual and collective potential.

2. Make sure that roles, responsibilities and accountability are clearly defined.  If you are working with an agile team/project team where roles change, this in itself is a new type of role that must be explained.  Clarity is king and buy in from members is queen.

3. Develop a team charter.  Team members need a strong sense of belonging to the group that will build trust and commitment. This sense of commitment is reinforced when the team spends the time to develop team norms or relationship guidelines together.

4. Lead, don’t micro-manage.
Make sure that all team members feel that they are a critical part of the team’s success. Make sure roles, responsibilities and accountability are clear, but do not micro manage. If process helps execution, use it.  Process used as a substitute for poor leadership, lack of trust will ultimately impede or undermine that potential of the team. Get the right people on your team, empower them, engage them; help them with their professional/personal development and hold them accountable.

Align & Motivate Empathize
Delegate & Monitor Plan & Control

5. Develop your ability to use care-frontation. Don’t shove problems or conflicts under the rug where they can fester, brew and explode in overt or covert ways.  Conflict is a healthy sign.  Use it to build connection.  Remember conflict that his not expressed, festers, brews and ultimately destroys everything in its path. Use shared values and objectives to break down barriers and to also help team members build strong intrinsic motivation so that they focus forward when times are tough.

6. Ready to react? Stuck in stasis?  Worried about driving in reverse?  Ready to go into fight or flight?  Try my R-E-A-C-H™ coaching method for better and faster results!  Go ahead change a default pattern of thinking, communicating or doing that is no longer working for you. Yes, brain science confirms that our brains are neuro-plastic (we can rewrite default patterns)

 

Redirect focus Don’t let your amygdala hijack you!  Pause.  Depersonalize and refocus on your primary objective.
Empower confidence Develop personal rituals that help you get empowered when times are tough.  Find ways to empower the confidence of team members because YOU cannot light a fire (yours or theirs) with wet wood. If you believe you can do it, you are arming yourself with an almost unstoppable weapon.
Actualize potential Put your best effort forward and execute.  Enable your best self and best work.
Communicate effectively Learn how to understand communication styles of others and how others perceive you so that you can speak/write in a way that opens their ears and send them a message that drives reach, resonance and results.
Harvest results Celebrate all wins, big and small and make sure to recognize the people who helped to make the win a reality.  Success is a group activity.  Build your team and they will reach back and help YOU grow.

 


7. Give your team a safe place to share their thoughts by developing team rituals that further transparent communication. 
Ask the right questions because developing your ability to not only ask the right questions, but ask them in a way that engages/empowers while also holding them accountable is critical.

8. Organize the team for excellent communication and execution by creating team rituals, regular meetings (face-face or virtually), team-building sessions as well as informal meetings that provide engagement, fuel focus and enthusiasm (lunch and learns, regular launches, social gatherings-fun time).  Never punish or castigate a team member for having a different opinion.  Open the door to different opinions they are the lifeblood of innovation and success.  If team membership changes during the project, or there are other important changes to deal with plan a short team building meeting to review forming and norming stages again (and/or to get the new team member up to speed).

9. Model failing forward.  Learn from successes and failures. Be honest with your team.  Do not try to buffer them from critical/difficult decisions.  Show them how to deal with challenges and turn them around. Show team members how to move from conflict to connection.

12. Championing learning, training and mentoring.  Help team members develop skills that help them improve interpersonal relationships, communication with all stakeholders (internal/external), presentation skills, career related skills AND skills that speak to their own personal development.

13. Hold pre-meetings (face to face or virtual review of meeting agenda so that you know if there are any questions or issues).  Pre-meetings are necessary ingredients of successful project meetings. Prime team members for a positive meeting.  Set the stage for fruitful results with a pre-meeting

14. Hang out with your team and also make sure there is fun time. Show them you are smart with heart. Sit with them and talk about their life/ambitions. Make sure that you humanize your relationship because you cannot lead heads without touching hearts. Let them know that you not only value their work and efforts, but enjoy them as people.

15. Model appreciation for efforts put forward and recognition for individual and collective achievements. One of the number one complaints of over 70% of USA employees is that they are not appreciated or recognized for their work.  Disengagement and presenteeism are rampant.  Nip them in the bud.

16. Be thoughtfully decisive. Take a stand that reflects 1.  Values   2.  Objectives   3.  The best course of action. “A leader always explains or fixes”. Explain your decisions to your team or go fix them.

17. Champion diversity.  Diversity of gender, race, skills and background makes a team stronger. Make sure to view each member as a unique and special component of the team with experiences, points of view, knowledge and experience to contribute.

18. Model leadership by creating an environment where team members are comfortable taking risks, communicating, advocating positions and taking action.  Do not punish, castigate or scoff at someone for disagreeing.

19. Model active listening.  Be a great listener and help team members improve their listening skills.  The most important part of communication is listening without judgment, without trying to guess what the other party is really trying to say or formulating your response while they are talking.

20. Expect and encourage creativity, innovation, and different viewpoints need to be expected and encouraged. Comments such as, “we already tried that and it didn’t work” and “what a dumb idea” should not be allowed or supported.

21.  Champion reflection and continuous improvement.  The team should regularly examine itself to improve processes, practices and interpersonal communication and interactions as well as an open discussion of team norms/practices that have become counter-productive in a changing environment. 

22. Work on team procedures for identifying, analyzing and resolving team problems and conflicts.  Again, use challenges as a positive lever to build better processes, communication and solutions. When you are having team building challenges focus on interpersonal relationships first!

                Goals
                Roles
                Processes
                Interpersonal Relationships

23.  Remember that trust is the glue that holds a great team together.  Shared values, objectives, honest communication, accountability and collaboration built trust and make it stick.  Frequent meetings, team rituals, social meetings (with and/or without family) community volunteer opportunities are all great ways to bond and share, wins and challenges are all opportunities to build trust.

24.  Identify toxic team members and get them off the team.  Make sure that you are not removing team members who have great potential and need coaching, training, mentoring but rather members who are NOT a fit for the team and who will not benefit from personal development initiatives.

25. Teach your team members to take breaks every 90 minutes for blank time in order to recharge.  Even the tightest schedule can grow to fit in 5 minutes of blank time every 90 minutes.  Stress is one of the most critical threats we face from an individual, business and organizational perspective.  Help yourself and your team members find ways to recharge. Explore and select personal rituals you can do in a couple of minutes a day that help you recharge, refocus and repower!

What team building activities have worked the best for YOUR team?  What is the greatest team building challenge you face?  We’d love to hear from you!


Irene Becker, Just Coach It for Breakthrough Results in Turbulent Times
Discover executive coaching, career coaching & personal coaching with a 3Q Edge
Email:  irene@justcoachit.com  (416-671-4726)  Skype: beckerirene
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Leadership, Success and Peace of Mind in Uncertain Times

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“The future belongs to those who see possibilities before they become obvious.”
—John Sculley, former Apple CEO

We live in times of extraordinary disruption, and equally extraordinary possibility. Our ability to see the extraordinary possibilities before us, our desire to become possibility thinkers, communicators, and leaders is critical on a multiplicity of levels.

I discovered how to be a possibility thinker and doer by finding a way to transform pain into strength, challenges into courage, hope into faith, conflicts into communication and difficult problems into cognitive dexterity; a way, a path that speaks to life and business/professional leadership. And, as, is often the case, the genesis of my 3Q model and work started when I faced the worst of times; a time when my life and work hung in the balance by a very thin thread.  Read more-My story Against All Odds (over 49,000 views)

A recent McKinsey and Company article estimates that change is happening ten times faster and at three hundred times the scale and impact of the Industrial Revolution. The Industrial Revolution altered life and work as we once knew it; our transition from the world of information to the age of innovation comes with a velocity of change, challenges, hyper-competition, and opportunities that our predecessors could never have imagined.   A VUCA (volatility-uncertainty-change- ambiguity) world demands a whole new focus and set of leadership skills that can take us forward faster, smarter, and stronger at a speed of change, challenges, and possibilities that will continue to accelerate. Read more-The Individual and Organizational Imperative for 3Q Leadership (over 41, 000 views)

The 2015 Global Human Capital Trends report by Deloitte pinpoints four critical pivot points for success: leading, engaging, reinventing, and reimaging. What worked yesterday may be impotent today or tomorrow; the need to shift forward is critical, and it depends upon your attitude, your ability to reimagine, engage, reinvent, and LEAD forward.  It depends upon our ability to help men and women, people of diverse backgrounds develop the skills they need to transform what is into what can be.  Read more-Women and Leadership (over 59,000  views)

 Your ability to remove the barriers to your greatest potential is real, and the first step in moving forward is recognizing the incredible potential within;  your potential to think, feel, see, and learn faster and better than before.  I have dedicated my life to helping people build their 3Q Edge because a whole new world demands a whole new focus that helps us live, learn, communicate and lead forward faster, smarter and happier than before.  Read more-3Q Benefits and Why I Have Dedicated My Life to This Work. (over 59,000 views)

 Are you ready for a new focus?  Is it time to think differently?  Transform stress into success?  Make change your greatest ally? Stay tuned, for my next post, as we explore taking the road less traveled by using challenges, changes, and stressors as a powerful lever for your greatest potential and results!  In the meantime, check out three interesting, exciting innovations and a list of predictions by Bill Gates!



Irene Becker, CSO, Just Coach It: irene@justcoachit.com  (416-671-4726)
Irene’s assistant, Drew Jones, drew@justcoachit.com (416-737-5075)

Monday Motivation: Improve Your Day in 5 to 38 minutes!

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Can a 38 minute routine turn a negative day around or infuse your day with positivity? Do 5 minute Cool Tools work? Yes! Try them on for size and find out! Continue to read for a great morning routine. Scroll to the bottom of the page for 5 minute Cool Tools. I believe you will be positively surprised by your results!

How can you get happier and more focused? Turn blah into blossom? Transform negativity into a new positive way of thinking? Michel Schwantes, shared terrific advice in his column for Inc. I am sharing an abridged version of the key steps mentioned in his recent article because they are simple, practical and purposeful. You can also find my cool tools at the bottom of the article.

1. Fuel your brain with the good stuff. in 10 minutes
Whatever you do, don’t skip a healthy breakfast. Trade your bowl of sugary cereal for something healthy–like oatmeal or a protein berry smoothie (have all the parts cut up the night before and ready to be blended).
You’ll avoid being tired and hungry later when the sugar jolt wears off.

2. Have a quick 15 minute exercise session.
If you fear a grueling work out, don’t worry, this won’t require you to push play on the P90X video. Positive psychologist Shawn Achor says that a short burst of fun cardio activity (think hula hoops, jumping on the trampoline, a laser Zumba dance session, or a brisk walk with the dog) works wonders . All it takes is 15 minutes per day.

3. Breathe for 5 minutes
OK, now that your heart is pumping a bit. it’s time to switch it up. Sit in a comfortable spot (your “happy place”), and breathe. No, we’re not talking breathing normally but “conscious breathing,” a focused form of yoga-based, breathing meditation.
Click here for one of my favorite Cool Tools (exercises that take less than 5 minutes) The Pause. The Pause will help you breathe better and develop greater mindfulness.

4. Here’s what to do in 5 minutes or less: Before noise from the outside world or your smart phone (or the kids waking up) distract you and you’re off to the races, find a quiet space, take out your journal or a notepad, and write these questions down:

What will grow you personally or professionally, and improve you as a human being today?
What will excite you and give you more energy today?
What will set the stage for an epic-productive day?

5. Take maximum 5 minutes to reflect on three things you are grateful for in life.
Move to another quiet and sacred space, preferably outdoors (a swing bench, a dock, or under a tree). Close your eyes, breathe through your stomach and center yourself. Meditate on the good things of life for 60 seconds–your family,job, good health, community, religion, etc. Now open your eyes and for the next 2 minutes write on your notepad or journal 3 things that you are grateful for the previous day.

Whether you are down in the dumps, stressed or discouraged taking simple, positive and purposeful steps can make a world of difference! We all hit ruts in the road, challenges, detours that sadden us and make it difficult to engage the positive energy and focus required to have a successful day.

Recharge in 5 Minutes or Less. Here are some 5 Minute (or less) Cool Tools
3 Simple Powerful Ways to Turn Negativity Around
How to Inspire and Enable Your Greatest Potential
100 Stressbusters
The Happiness Course-7 Tips and More
The 18 Word Success Formula
The Pause

 

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Success in Uncertain Times-A Small Favor & Thank You Gift

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Why Storytelling Skills Make You a Better Business leader

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Saturday Video: Presentation Secrets of the World’s Top Minds

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 “There’s nothing more inspiring than a bold idea delivered by a great speaker,”  Carmine Gallo, the author of Talk Like Ted-9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World’s Top Minds.The leader who communicates well succeeds well.  Whether you are presenting for 2 people or 2 hundred, the ability to sell your ideas is one of the most important business and professional skills you can acquire, and it is a skill you can learn and improve.   

In his book, Talk like TED, Carmine Gallo identifies and outlines 9 techniques used by the top TED presenters and shows how you can use them to improve your own presentations by making them more powerful and dynamic. The mission of TED (Technology, Entertainment and Design) is to spread ideas. The non-profit organization is best-known for its TED Talks, short, powerful talks of 18 minutes or less, delivered by experts drawn from the worlds of technology, academia, entertainment and beyond.

How can you improve your presentations skills and results by making your presentation more emotional, novel and memorable? What are the key secrets of great presenters?  Enjoy this 2-minute video summary of Talk Like Ted-9 Presentation Secrets of the World’s Top Minds. 

 

Gratitude to Carmine Gallo for his excellent book and to The Business Source for their excellent video summary. 
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Saturday Video: Boost Your Results & Reduce Your Hours

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Extreme Productivity
How can you boost your results while reducing your hours?

In the book, Extreme Productivity, Robert C. Pozen shows us how to be truly productive, even when faced with a myriad of competing demands and multiple time-sensitive projects. During the 5 year period in which this book was written, Pozen held down two full-time jobs as a business leader and a Harvard teacher while also keeping a good relationship with his wife and family.   The book is based on his long-term, real-world experience and gives the reader excellent counsel on productivity, personal development, and relations.

What are the secrets to extreme productivity? Enjoy this 2-minute video
book summary of Robert C. Pozen’s book, Extreme Productivity by The Business Source.

 

More?  You betcha.
Here are  some of my favorite stress-busting techniques and a cool tool (2-minute solution) to help you recharge, refocus and repower.  Yes, stress is a 21st-century part of life that is eroding individuals and organizations from inside out.  Stress not only impairs cognition, productivity and also damages our physical and emotional health. Less stress-greater productivity and success!
100 Stressbusters
The Pause-A 2-minute cool tool, a transformational exercise anyone can learn to do.

 

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Leadership is Olympian | Practical Ways to Ignite Your Inner Olympian

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Saturday 2 Minute Video: Effective Leadership, Engagement & Results

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Leadership BS-Changing Workplaces and Careers One Truth at a Time
Disengagement is a critical problem that is destroying organizations from inside out. The imperative to revisit our thoughts about what makes a good leader and how to develop effective leadership training is critical.

What if most of what you’ve been taught about leadership in college, business school, seminars and management literature is either wrong or useless?

In his intriguing and controversial book, Leadership BS-Changing Workplaces and Careers One Truth at a Time, Jeffrey Pfeffer highlights five disconnects between contemporary leadership teaching and real world practice.

•What are the five disconnects that create ineffective leadership and dis-engagement?
•What can we NOW to develop good leaders?

Watch the Video
Watch this 2 minute video
synopsis of Professor Pfeffer’s book, Leadership BS-Changing Workplaces and Careers One Truth at a Time by The Business Source and re-visit your beliefs about what makes a good leader.

 

 


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Build Your Ultimate Advantage in Turbulent Times

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 You have heard of EQ/EI (emotional intelligence) but what is 3Q, and how can building  three “Q” strengths change and improve your life, your communication, your leadership and the results you achieve in a VUCA* world?   Click here to learn all about 3Q skills  scroll down to take a free 3Q life and career self-assessment. (*volatility, uncertainty, change, ambiquity)

Here are 7 ways to start building YOUR 3Q Edge:

 

  1.  Build a community of purpose, because success in a connected world demands communication, collaboration with your direct reports, your boss, your colleagues and other stakeholders. Click for more info on developing YOUR Community of Purpose.
  2. Develop Greater Self Awareness  Your ability to find new ways, better ways to R-E-A-C-H (redirect, empower, actualize, communicate and harvest results) in yourself is the starting point, the pivotal determinant for your ability to inspire and engage the best in yourself and others in good times and bad.
  3. Increase your emotional intelligence, build the self-awareness, awareness of others, emotional mastery and resilience that is critical to effective.  Click here to learn more about EQ management, leadership and wellbeing. Learning about EQ/EI is important, but it is not enough. Emotional intelligence is honed in the practice, in using challenges at hand to build each critical area of EQ/EI that will allow you to live, lead and succeed more effectively, optimize and delegate purposefully and build the communication and strong relationships that are critical to success.
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  4. Embrace and nurture your strengths. Get in focus with what you do brilliantly, with your areas of excellence. Know what you do best, and use every challenge you face to engage and build you’re your intrinsic and learned strengths. Choose team members who have different strengths that give the sum total of your efforts more power. Team members whose values, integrity and dedication mirror yours but whose intrinsic and learned strengths are different and complimentary to your own.
  5.  See challenges in a new and different way that takes YOU and those you lead forward. Develop a new and different relationship with changes, stressors, difficult people/situations that will help YOU Fail Forward faster and better. Your ability to reset default patterns is the coachable moment. It takes awareness; it takes practice and consistent small positive steps or changes in perspective and behavior that will have a formidable impact.
  6. Develop your REACH coaching skills. Learn how to effectively coach others. Develop the coaching skills that can help you help others to optimize their potential, communication and results when the going gets tough by helping others R-E-A-C-H™ (redirect focus, empower, actualize potential, communicate effectively, harvest results). Apply systems theory, because even one small consistent positive change will impact the whole system in ways that can be pivotal and transformational.
  7.  Develop new ways, better ways of communicating that helps you build a bridge across cultural or generational differences that helps you to achieve the engagement and collaboration you need to succeed in our connected world.  Your ability to communicate effectively is one of the most important determinants of your personal and professional success.Do you want to play to strengths while transforming stressors, changes, challenges into a lever for your greatest purpose, potential and results?  Pie in the sky?  Think again.  The proof is in a 13 year track record of breakthrough results in high stress, high change environments.

Take action NOW…

Find out where you stand with this FREE 3Q Career and Life Self Assessment and contact me for a complimentary 15 minute consultation because the need to not only play to strengths, but to transform changes, challenges and stressors into a levers for your greatest potential, happiness and results is real and CRITICAL.

Irene Becker


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Self-Actualization, Happiness and Success in a Chaotic World

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Self LoveI share this post with you because I  believe in our ability to build a better tomorrow.  I wake up each morning striving to share more, to help more because I believe with all  my heart that courage, integrity, hope, humanity and faith can take us forward.  They are the values, the strengths, the greatest riches that no one can take from you.  Read more

Self-actualization, happiness and success start by knowing what you really want and adopting a fresh perspective that will help you learn, live and lead forward. What do you really want?  What is really bothering you today?  How can you engage your purpose, your passion, your ability to tap into your strengths and transform challenges into possibilities? Stop thinking about what is wrong, and start focusing on what is right. Read more

Will you choose greatness?  Will you choose to be a victim or a victor?  Do you want to let life happen to you or use what live gives you to tap into your greatest power and the heartfelt values that ignite and sustain your greatest power and happiness?  The greatest power we have lies not in what we have, but in who we are-who we choose to be. Become the director in YOUR movie/YOUR life.  Read more
Start now.  Start this moment by applying self-love.  We are all capable of greatness.  What this means to each individual is different, because our impact, our contribution to the world is different.  Each positive contribution, no matter how big of small, is a critical component in an evolution of self and society that will take us forward to face a brave new world with hope, faith, courage, humanity and integrity.   Read more

Every day is an opportunity to begin again.  Every day will present you with challenges and opportunities to transform the challenges you face into levers for your greatest potential.  Will you seize the day?  Will you recognize your power to make a difference in any way you choose?  Think carefully, because the greatest fulfillment, the only true happiness we feel is when we are contributing, when we are sharing, when we have touched the life of another. Read more

Where do you start?  Start here! Start with self-love and appreciation that is NOT founded on the need to be validated by others. Make a decision, a choice to appreciate your unique gifts, your unique potential, your unique fingerprint because YOU can make a difference in whatever way you choose, but making a difference means being grounded in love not fear or anger.  Apply self-love. Read more

Start this day with a fresh new perspective that will take you forward! Refocus, repurpose, repower! Get inspired by the person you really are because that person is the person YOU can choose to be. Feel your power to choose love over fear, humanity over anger, hope over despair, faith over uncertainty.  Build your 3Q Edge™, your ability to tap into your strengths while using challenges as a lever for your greatest potential and results. Read more

 

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10 Quotes and Tips on Re-igniting Happiness

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How can you re-ignite happiness? Appreciating the value of true happiness and learning to cultivate happiness in good times and bad is critical and doable.
I can write these words because I have lived them and I have also worked with clients to help them achieve greater happiness and success for more than a decade.  Yes, I have been to the back of the dark forest to the edge of challenges, changes, defeat, despair, illness, tragedies to recognize that our ability to truly build happiness is not reflective of what we have, but who we are.  Our ability to reset the GPS, adopt new ways of thinking, communicating or doing is real and critical to our happiness and an evolution of self that will help us live our best lives and do our best work.

Here are 10 of my favorite quotes and accompanying top ten simple, powerful tips on feeling happier.

 

If you want happiness for a lifetime — help someone else.” Chinese Proverb
Tip One →Find the light and share it with someone else.
 Step out of sadness by helping another person. Try it, because it is scientifically proven to work!


“Happiness never decreases by being shared.” 
Buddha
Tip Two→Share a joke or funny story with someone who will appreciate it.

 


“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen.  Stacey Charter
Tip Three → Apply love.  Spend five minutes a day thinking about how you love yourself.   Yes, think of all the qualities that make you special,            because each human being is gifted with attributes that are truly lovable.  If you had a dysfunctional childhood, learning to re-parent yourself, learning to                comfort the child within, to love him/her can be pivotal.  If you are going through a difficult experience or challenge the need to love yourself,
appreciate yourself is critical.

 

Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.” Winnie the Pooh
 Tip Four →Take time out each day for blank time; time when you DO not worry, time when you are just at peace and at one with the
universe.

 

 “We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” Frederick Keonig
Tip Five →: Adopt an attitude of gratitude.  
Keep a gratitude journal or simply make a mental note before you go to bed and when you wake up of what         you are grateful for.

 

“Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.” Thich Nhat Hanh
Tip Six: Smile because science tells us that the simple act of smiling will elevate your mood.

 

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”  Helen Keller
Tip Seven →Beware of the abyss.  The longer you stare at the darkness, the more it will overwhelm you.  Look for the good, no matter how hard it is to
do so.

 

“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.” Aesop
 Tip Eight →
Be kind because there is not enough kindness in the world and one small drop can make a huge ripple in your life and the lives of others.

 

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
Tip Nine→Get coached.  Learn to change your thinking by taking very small, consistent steps to think in ways that will help build
happiness and success.  Work with your coach to find the right small steps that work for you and actualize/integrate them in your
life/work.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Tip Ten → Understand and appreciate your true beauty by moving past the abyss, through the struggle or pain by holding on to the

faith, hope, courage, integrity and humanity that  no one can ever  take from you.

 

I hope that this simple post will speak to your heart and soul, because nothing can be more important than preserving and cherishing them both. Your heart and soul empower your greatness, and ability to rise to the challenges before you and use them to do good, be good and lead in a way that makes a positive difference, an important difference in your life and the lives of others.  Carpe diem.

©Irene Becker, 2016

 

More on Happiness in Disruptive or Turbulent Times?  YOU Betcha!
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The Secret to Peace and Prosperity
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I Choose the Road Less Traveled
The Happiness Course
Picking the Golden Apple
Recharge, Repower in 3 Minutes or Less
100 Stressbusters
True Happiness
Rediscover Your Genius

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Do you want to get motivated and inspired?  Transform a people-centric leadership, business development, communication or career challenge into an advantage?  Transform an area of personal challenge into an asset? Build sticky coaching, training and mentoring initiatives? Take action now. Find out how we can help.

Irene Becker


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How to Live Happier in the Midst of a Storm

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iStock_000014644345XSmall-glass-half-fullHow can you live happier in the midst of a storm? What do I know about storms, happiness and success? More than most.  I can honestly say that my expertise in all three areas may be unchallenged.   Read More  and More.  This year I faced a tragedy of enormous proportion, today I face myself and I reach out to you with one message.  Choose life, choose happiness, find a way to ignite and inspire your best self because doing so is the only way forward.  Find a way to give and contribute, because doing so will ignite your heart, soul and help you engage your strength.  Be kind to yourself and pay kindness forward to others.

Let’s face it, negativity abounds, change, challenges, and upheavels are the norm.  Yes, we are living in a storm that is going to get worse before it gets better. Learning to extract happiness every day is a learned habit that starts with making a conscious decision to fight the negativity that surrounds us as we open our newspaper, turn on our radio or TV and interact throughout the day.    When negativity overtakes our consciousness we feel helpless and powerless.  Unable to see all that we have to be grateful for negativity blinds us to options, opportunities.  Psychological research indicates that a pessimistic cognitive bias makes you vulnerable to feelings of helplessness and depression.  Negativity also appears to compromise the immune system – optimists have been shown to have better-functioning immune systems and better health overall.  Optimists generally live 8-9 years longer than do pessimists.  It is clearly time to get happy, to get joyful.  Read more

Do you want to reduce the risk of depression, physical illness, and early death?  Start by reclaiming your personal power to be joyful.  Can we train ourselves to be happy?  You bet.  How can we start?  Start by preparing your consciousness to accept joy and to reject negativity.  Decide that you are going to spend one whole day, 24 hours refusing to be negative.  Stretch out of the comfort zone and decide to make today a positive day, no matter what!  Read more

Go ahead, just spend 24 hrs. being positive, drinking in life with your glass half full.
   Choose life, choose happiness, find a way to ignite and inspire your best self because doing so is the only way forward.  Find a way to give and contribute, because doing so will ignite your heart, soul and help you engage your strength.  Be kind to yourself and pay kindness forward to others.Reclaim your personal power to be joyful by taking making this day a purely positive one.  Reject all negativity for 24 hrs and decide to be happy.  Try it, you’ll like it!  Read more

© Irene Becker, Just Coach It

More on Getting and Staying Inspired?  YOU Betcha

The Secret to Peace and Prosperity
Refocus, Repurpose, Repower
I Choose the Road Less Traveled

The Happiness Course
Picking the Golden Apple
Recharge, Repower in 3 Minutes or Less
100 Stressbusters
True Happiness
Rediscover Your Genius

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Saturday Solution: 2 Minute Video on Designing Impactful Conversations

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Impactful Conversations
Are you spending untold hours in unproductive meetings?
  Statistics tell us that managers spend 50-85% of their time in meetings, and that the majority of these meetings are not fruitful.  Authors of Moments of Impact, Chris Ertel and Lisa Kay Solomon share a way to design conversations to energize your team and generate breakthrough insights so you can achieve real Moments of Impact.

Strategic conversations must elicit both analytical and emotional/creative responses and lead to definite action, while being flexible enough to adapt to changing circumstances. They have to engage and inspire participants, often using novel techniques and tactics. And they have to be memorable so there’s meaningful follow-through. Such meetings, say Ertel and Solomon, must be built around five core principles.

What are the five core principles that can help YOU design strategic conversations that energize your team and create breakthrough insights?  The best way to find out is by watching this excellent video by The Business Source.  Thank you, authors Chris Artel and Lisa Kay Solomon for an excellent book, and The Business Source for an excellent 2 minute video summary.

Click here to access the 2 minute video.   Learn how YOU can design impactful conversations!

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5 Ways to Communicate and Lead Forward
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Irene Becker

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Irene  Becker, Founder and Chief Success Officer
Coaching•Consulting•Workshops•Keynotes with a 3Q Edge™
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Saturday Solution: 2 Minute Video-Fixing Leadership and Careers One Truth at a Time

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success diceThe writing is on the walls of our organizations and workplace; the training received misses the mark a great deal of the time.  Hence the blunt title of this, the 14th book that the Stanford Business School professor Jeffrey Pfeffer  has either written or co-authored.  Jeffery Pfeffer shares his thoughts about the leadership industry, which he says is sucking billions of dollars out of corporate coffers by telling us things about leadership that are misleading, far removed from the real world and, sometimes, patently untrue.  “A provocative case that most leadership advice is baloney and the entire industry is broken. Pfeffer convincingly argues that we consistently give the wrong people power – and even when we get it right, authenticity is a recipe for disaster.” – Adam Grant, Wharton professor and New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take

 

Leadership BS-Fixing Leadership and Careers One Truth at a Time poses important questions:

→What if most of what you’ve been taught about leadership in college, business
school, seminars and management literature is either wrong or useless?

→What if  you’re being taught someone’s idea of how they think things should be, rather than
how they actually are?

→What are the five disconnects about what we are told about successful leadership and what successful leaders actually do?
The best way to find out is to click for an excellent 2 minute video summary by The Business Source

>>>Enjoy this excellent video book summary by The Business Source by clicking here <<<

More on Effective Leadership?  YOU Betcha.  Visit the drop down menu on this blog for a large collection of leadership articles.

 

Do you want to get motivated and inspired?  Transform a people-centric leadership, business development, communication or career challenge into an advantage Build sticky coaching, training and mentoring initiatives?  We are here to help you lead, communicate and succeed forward in disruptive times;  face to face, by telephone, skype or video conferencing.  Call (416)-671-4726  Skype:  beckerirene

Irene Becker

Just Coach It.  Empower-Engage-Transform

Irene  Becker, Founder and Chief Success Officer
Coaching•Consulting•Workshops•Keynotes with a 3Q Edge™

irene@justcoachit.com  Twitter @justcoachit
Tel: (1) 416-671-4726   Skype: beckerirene   irene@justcoachit.com 
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Effective Leadership-How do you measure success?

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Effective LeadershipAs a leader how do you measure success? What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?  What is the difference between a leader and a boss?  How would you promote cohesion among teams who disagree? How do you motivate your team?  What leadership style do you use?  How do you resolve conflict?

Enjoy this leadership listicle from Villanova University around effective leadership.  How would you answer the aforementioned questions?  Your comments are valued and encouraged.  Please do not hesitate to share them on 3Q Leadership™ Blog

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Skip Prichard

President & CEO, OCLC, Inc.
Leadership Insights blogger

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What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?

It is always my goal to be seen first as a servant leader. Servant leaders think of others first. They encourage, they motivate and they are humble. I think they lead with others in mind.

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

A boss manages through positional power, whereas a leader radiates personal power. Leaders can emerge from anywhere in an organization. They galvanize others with their ideas, energy and passion. People are swept into their vision and want to achieve results. A boss is a box on an organizational chart. With a position of power, the boss has an extraordinary opportunity to influence. That opportunity does not always equate to becoming a leader.

How would you promote cohesion among teams who disagree?

A team needs to align around a decision. You can and should disagree openly in a team meeting. Argue and debate within the team. Once the decision is made, then you need to align as a team publicly, or you will undermine the ability of the team to deliver. I think leaders often struggle with cohesion because they do not encourage debate and listen to the arguments on both sides. If people feel like they will be treated fairly, they may be more likely to support the final decision.

How do you motivate your team?

I hire motivated people. It’s very difficult to motivate someone to do something. I find it’s much easier to find people who are self-motivated. As a leader, my job is to provide an environment of encouragement mixed with challenge. After that, it’s up to the individual.

What leadership style do you use?

I’m a lifelong student of leadership. We all have preferred styles based on our personality and experience. However, successful leaders learn to adapt the style to the required situation. At times, a good leader needs to listen and influence in a subtle way. Other times, that same leader may be required to be on stage, up front and vocal. Still another time, the leader may be persuasive, influencing behind the scenes. The best leaders are constantly changing styles to serve others and to serve the intended goal.

As a leader, how do you measure success?

Through results – That usually implies financial results, but when I answer “results,” I think of them in a much broader way. It’s not only financial results or measureable metrics, but I make sure these questions are answered. Are we improving our skills? Are we better this year than last year? Are we influencing more people to take action? Jim Rohn said, “Success is something you attract by the person you become.” I’ve adopted his philosophy.

How do you resolve conflict?

It depends on the conflict. I never shy away from conflict because it can be a welcome learning experience. It can offer a window into an important issue, or it can provide an opportunity to develop personally and professionally. Francis Crick said, “The death knell to real collaboration is politeness.” In a civil, respectful way, encouraging conflict is important. It leads to better results. Hiding or avoiding conflict only pushes the real battles to the boundary.

Jon Mertz

Founder, Thin Difference
Speaker and Published Author

ThinDifference.com
@ThinDifference

What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?

The most important value I try to demonstrate is empathy. Everyone experiences joy, ordeals and uncertainty within the workplace and within their families. Having open, honest and understanding conversations can help set the stage for determining the right steps forward. Demonstrating empathy is not being weak. It is just the opposite.

Empathy is about showing strength as a leader to solve problems and support team members and colleagues in good and challenging times. The other key values I try to demonstrate are a problem solving and growth-oriented mindset. Going into any situation with an attitude and belief of “this can be solved” sets the stage for everyone to apply their talents together.

Being growth-oriented means we must always keep learning and get better at what we do. If my team members do not see me demonstrating these mindset values, then I have failed. Each of these values must always be grounded in integrity.

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

Simply stated, a leader raises others up while a boss holds people in their place. Leaders empower the best in others, and the best comes out by how they use their talents. A boss tells others what to do and may even tell them how to do it. A boss puts people in a box. A leader unboxes the gifts each individual has.

A leader holds people accountable while giving them the responsibility and authority to do the work. A boss just holds people accountable with little corresponding responsibility and authority.

How would you go about getting cohesion from a team who disagrees?

I think Dr. Henry Cloud said it best. “Go hard on the issue and soft on the person.” What this means is to keep the focus on the issue and process. We need to be relentless in this focus. By doing so, eventually the true cause or challenge will be discovered and then can be resolved. If we get distracted on the personal stuff, the relationship may fray, and no progress made.

Another key element is empathy. Understanding another’s perspective may help begin to flesh out where the common ground is. Asking a lot of questions and getting confirmation on what we hear can also help determine how to collaborate together. One final point is to remember to lighten up the environment. A good laugh can help spark a refreshed perspective.

How do you motivate your team?

What I try to do is set the big goals each quarter and give people space to determine how to achieve them. Our goals align to our purpose. Staying focused on why our work is important will keep us motivated. Too often, the simplicity and power of these actions are missed.

I believe most teams are good, and they want to make the best decisions possible and put their best efforts forward as often as they can. Motivation springs from here.

What leadership style do you use?

My leadership style is designed around collaborative results. By working together with a focus on the higher purpose at hand and leveraging each other’s strengths, we can achieve many great things together.

As a leader, how is success measured?

Success is measured by how team members grow in the use of their talents and the new initiatives they undertake on their own. In our world today, there is more opportunity for horizontal growth than vertical. How team members gain new capabilities, take on new initiatives and demonstrate creativity in solving problems are how I measure success as a leader.

The added way is what we achieve as a department and a company. Within an organization, there is a higher purpose to realize. Success is measured in how well we perform in achieving that higher purpose.

How do you resolve conflict?

As difficult as it is, resolving conflict begins with an honest, open conversation. Staying focused on the issue and not the personality is vital, although not easy. Taking deep breathes and listening intently to what is being said – verbal and nonverbal – can also help a great deal.

I try to keep my emotions in check while remaining centered in calm resolution. In many ways, there is a sense of rising above the situation and observing how the conversation is unfolding. A new perspective is gained, and I stay focused on resolving the issue.

Irene Becker

Founder, Just Coach It – The 3Q Edge™
Leadership, Career and Communication Expert, Speaker and Writer
20+ years in Leadership and Executive Positions

JustCoachIt.com
@justcoachit

What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?

The most important values I demonstrate as a leader are character, competency, integrity, humanity and courage. These values are the anchors for seven timeless commitments that build and sustain great leadership:

  • The commitment to lead and not follow
  • The commitment to the empowerment of self and others
  • The commitment to purpose and vision
  • The commitment to communicating the vision
  • The commitment to courage
  • The commitment to integrity
  • The commitment to action ability

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

A boss is a person who is responsible for workplace objectives being met. They are the individual that employees report to, and the individual who will set objectives and is responsible for seeing that they are met. Leaders are responsible for inspiring, guiding and enabling potential, collaboration and results. They set the vision, inspire the mission and create new pathways that drive reach, resonance and results.

How do you get cohesion among a team who disagrees?

It is important that team members bring different skills, strengths and a diversity of thought to the table. What unites a team is a common purpose and common values that are the linchpin for team development, growth and cohesion. I would use disagreement as a positive. Disagreement is not necessarily negative. Different opinions are important.

How is disagreement transformed into consensus and collaboration? By refocusing on the common objectives, values and goals and determining how to find a balance, an answer that uses areas of disagreement to come up with a new and better solution(s). In transforming disagreement into new solutions, one is also modeling and teaching the ability to build respect, resiliency and integrative thought (the skill of holding two opposing thoughts in one’s mind in order to come up with the best solution). Respect, resiliency, integrative thought and collaboration are critical 21st century leadership and team strengths.

How do you motivate your team?

You should motivate your team by helping employees develop their professional abilities and personal strengths. Your commitment to your people, your ability to help them build upon their strengths, learn new skills and develop new habits of thinking, doing and communicating is critical. Teaching and helping team members to fail forward (to use failures in a positive way to generate new ideas and results), making sure that every effort is made to grow communication/collaboration, as well as highlighting accomplishments of individuals and the team as a whole, are important motivators.

The balance in motivating your team lies between knowing each team member and understanding how to communicate in a way that motivates them as well as the entire team. Motivation comes from respect, understanding, communication and the feeling that the work one is doing is valued. Team synergy comes from a team that communicates and collaborates together toward a common goal with shared values that hold them together.

What leadership style do you use?

My leadership style is collaborative, but I believe that it is critical to adapt one’s leadership style to fit the people you are leading. To me, leadership is about character, competence and integrity and the style one uses must reflect all three values. Different groups, sectors and demographics require different leadership styles because the litmus test of great leadership is being able to inspire, engage and enable people, potential and results.

The ability to adapt one’s leadership style in terms of how one communicates is critical, especially in a new arena where diversity, generational and cultural differences demand a leadership style that can build bridges and drive consensus collaboration.

As a leader, how do you measure success?

As a leader, I measure success by my ability to not simply achieve objectives, but to champion and entrench the values, the mission, the organization as a whole and the importance of every individual who contributes to the greater goal. Success is measured not only by my ability to lead positive change, but to inspire, engage and enable others to optimize and engage their greatest potential and results in alignment with the objectives and common values that unite us all.

How do you resolve conflict?

The best way to resolve conflict to bring all parties to the center of the table. When conflict arises, even the best and brightest among us can get hijacked by emotions. It is imperative to pause and NOT react, but to respond. Focusing on the center of the table means focusing on the shared goals, objectives and values that tie everyone together.

It also means listening to another’s opinion without judgment and making sure the other party is heard and respected. It means reflecting back what they have said and using it to validate their opinion, so that everyone moves from conflict to connection.

Mark Fernandes

Chief Leadership Officer, Luck Companies
Keynote Speaker and Writer

MarkSFernandes.com
@marksfernandes

What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?

My personal core values are responsibility, accountability, discipline, excellence and significance. These are the ones that I feel are important to live my life by. However, this does not necessarily make them right for everyone. Each of us has our own set of core values, and our deeply held beliefs about what is right and good. What’s most important is that we do the hard work of understanding and embracing what our own core values are, then live our lives in alignment with them as this would be our authentic best self.

I also believe trust building and relationships are exceptionally important as a leader, and doing what you say, saying what you mean, and being what you seem (my definition of integrity) go a long way toward building both. Trust building and relationships take time, however, they can be lost in an instant of untrustworthy behavior.

There is also something to be said about grace, an ethic of kindness. Grace is not only something we need to extend to others but also to ourselves. As Ian Maclaren said, “Be kind; everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” We could all benefit by giving each other and ourselves a break.

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

Leaders serve others and often spend the majority of their time asking questions about how they can help or support those around them. Bosses are self-serving and spend most of their time telling others what to do.

How would you build cohesion among a team who disagrees?

Getting a team or group of people to agree on something can be a difficult task and generally divide team members even more. Oftentimes, alignment is a better desired state whereby team members agree to disagree, however move forward as one voice and/or in one direction. This is typically best accomplished through a collaborative approach to the solution, where everyone’s voice is heard, and a decision made through consensus building.

How do you motivate your team?

The best motivations are intrinsic or the self-desire to seek out new things and new challenges. It is driven by an interest or enjoyment in the task itself, and exists within the individual rather than relying on external pressures or a desire for reward. As a leader, I see it as our responsibility to create the environment and conditions for our employees and teams to be self-motivated and use the characteristics of organizational climate (clarity, standards, rewards, flexibility, responsibility and team commitment) to do so.

Along with these characteristics, it is also the responsibility of the leader to use the appropriate leadership style that is best suited for certain situations to ensure the best conditions for motivation exist.

What leadership style do you use?

Tough love is the leadership style that has been most influential and impactful for me throughout my life. This is the style that I have carried forward from mentors, coaches and my parents, but over time I have adapted my application of this practice to meet the specific needs of each person I engage with.

While the “one size fits all” principles of tough love worked well for its time, I felt the need to redefine this approach for both myself and a transforming world of work that is asking for a very different kind of leader – a truly human leader. I have chosen to lead by employing a greater balance between “tough” and “love,” seeking to meet people where they are in any given situation and providing them with exactly what they need to, in turn, be influential and impactful for others.

As a leader, how is success measured?

In the early stages of my career (and life), I defined success much like most other Baby Boomers. Success was more about the accomplishment of goals and attainment of things, positions, honors, wealth and the like. Today, it is so much less about what I “get” and so much more about what I “give.”

My personal mission statement is to inspire people to believe in themselves, and become everything they are capable of becoming. On any given day where I may have inspired just one person to wake up to the limitless possibilities of their life, that would be a really successful day.

How do you resolve conflict?

My personal preference for resolving conflict is to focus on the problem not the personalities and to not let it get personal. Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship and learning how to deal with conflict – rather than avoiding it – is crucial. It’s typically best when emotions are diffused, as calmer heads often prevail, and attention is paid to the rational facts versus obsessing on the feelings.

Scott Mabry

Senior Operations Leader in Financial Services
Leadership Author and Blogger

Soul2Work.com
@soul2work

What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?

To me, the most important values are empathy, honesty, competence, inclusion and vulnerability. All of these values relate to building trust, and trust is at the heart of leadership.

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

A manager is focused on doing things right. A leader is focused on doing the right things.

How do you improve cohesion among team members who disagree?

Listen carefully to the stories and pay attention to the underlying emotions. Is this really about the issue or about something hiding behind the issue? Refocus on the outcome both parties want to achieve and search for common ground. Find a path that best serves the needs of the team and work with them to build an agreement on the work load and how they will work together. Create opportunities to build informal relationships that break down barriers.

How do you motivate your team?

I don’t spend a lot of time directly trying to motivate the team. I focus on creating an environment where people will find their own internal motivations. People are motivated when they feel cared for. Care about your team members, get to know what inspires them on a personal level and create a culture designed to encourage both individual and team success.

What leadership style do you use?

I focus on an inclusive, connected and confident leadership style. I feel it is very important to bring others into the leadership process and to lead together, but I understand that I must also be decisive and directive at times when that is what the team needs from me. I seek to build positive relationships with each person in my direct team.

As a leader, how is success measured to you?

Success is measured by the degree to which I am able to lead the team to reach the objectives we set out to achieve. It is also the degree to which each person on my team grew as a person and a leader through our shared experiences. My goal is to help each person realize their potential and feel appreciated, supported and rewarded by their work. This isn’t the same as trying to make people happy. Sometimes, it means tough conversations and pushing people beyond their comfort zone.

How do you resolve conflict?

I help people work through their differences with a focus on finding common ground, and I help each person recognize how they can contribute to a better situation. I set the expectation that if the conflict is hurting the team, a way through it must be found. Disagreement and debate are acceptable, and even healthy as long as the discussion is over a common goal and the team is passionate about the best way to accomplish the mission. Conflict for the sake of individual pride, accomplishment and reward or professional dislike is not acceptable.

Dennis and Michelle Reina

Co-Founders of Reina, A Trust Building® Consultancy
Best-selling authors with nearly 25 years of experience strengthening workplace trust

ReinaTrustBuilding.com
@DrDennisReina
@DrMichelleReina

What are the most important values you demonstrate as leaders?

As leaders in workplace trust building, we know we have a responsibility not only to what we do, but how we do it. This means committing to do what we say we are going to do and working hard to deepen our own trustworthiness. This critical inner work is guided by demonstrating four core values:

  • Do the right thing and do it right
  • Push boundaries to learn and grow
  • Co-create for the greater good
  • Honor the mind, body and spirit

We find these values fuel us – daily – to give our best. Time and again, we attract colleagues and clients who’re willing to give us their best.

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

People follow bosses out of obligation. They follow leaders out of inspiration. We’ve found that worldwide, across all industries and levels of responsibility, the key difference between bosses and leaders is their trustworthiness. People trust leaders to do what’s right, particularly in tough situations. Leaders build trust through focusing more on the people they’re supposed to be leading than the things they’re supposed to be doing. As a result, people can:

  • Feel confident in the direction they’ve set for the organization
  • Strive to produce extraordinary results, even in challenging circumstances
  • Support and nurture their leader’s growth – both as a leader, and as a human being

How would you get cohesion from a team who disagrees?

We’ve found the most effective method to forge consensus is to uncover the disagreement’s ‘why.’ Why are people divided within an issue? How are they seeing the future unfold differently if certain decisions are made? What impacts are some people anticipating that others may not have considered? The only real way to get at these insights is to create a safe container for people to talk candidly with one another in focused pursuit of the ‘why.’

In this space, people can unearth and test assumptions, pinpoint risks and opportunities and develop a clear path forward together. We find that through this process, team members begin to engage with one another. This engagement not only strengthens trust, it fuels optimal performance.

How do you motivate your team?

As team leaders, it’s our job to give people permission to slow down and pinpoint what’s holding them back. Could they use additional training, an outside perspective or a subtle shift in environment? Do they need time to rest and reboot? Or, are there dynamics that are diminishing the trust they have in themselves – or in other members of the team? In our experience, a breakdown in motivation can be a red flag for a breakdown in trust. Even in the highest performing teams, people practice behaviors that make trust vulnerable. Broken trust is the outcome of people doing business together.

In our team, when we notice energy levels declining, we give people room and space to pinpoint behaviors that may be breaking trust and clarify what’s needed to get back on track. This isn’t always easy – especially when our team needs to be firing on all cylinders. Yet, the time we invest in this process is always rewarded. Our relationships improve, our effectiveness increases and – most importantly – our ability to teach trust deepens because we’re living it, authentically.

What leadership style do you use?

Both with clients and in our team, our leadership style is highly collaborative. We believe the most effective, sustainable solutions are co-created, not dictated.

As leaders, how do you measure success?

Our clients refer to us as pioneering leaders in workplace trust building. For nearly 25 years, we’ve supported people at all levels of responsibility to shift behavior, optimize relationships and perform exceptionally, both as professionals and as human beings. Because trust work lives at the core of the human experience, we measure our work’s success in terms of impact. Other questions we ask include:

  • Has our approach to trust building supported people to transform their workplaces and lives?
  • Have the business results our clients achieved increased public awareness around the value of workplace trust?
  • Have we built a method to build trust that stands the test of time?

We’re thankful and proud that we’re enjoying success by these measures. Yet we’re more proud that our clients are enjoying success from trust building.

How do you resolve conflict?

In our work with thousands of leaders worldwide, we’ve found that conflict is rooted in compromised trust. We’ve developed a proven seven-step formula that supports people to resolve conflict, restore trust and work together again effectively.

  • Observe and acknowledge what’s happened. Recognize the impact of the conflict on both work and life outside of work.
  • Allow feelings to surface. Is there confusion, anger, hurt or shock?
  • Get support. Seek objective counsel to gain greater perspective.
  • Reframe the experience. Get curious. Consider the bigger picture, opportunities that may now be open, options that can be considered. Reflect upon what the experience may teach about personal development, relationships and life.
  • Take responsibility for moving through the conflict and restoring trust, even if not at fault. Learn the behaviors to practice that can keep the situation from happening again.
  • Forgive others. Release the weight of bitterness and resentment and approach others with compassion and understanding.
  • Let go and move on. Disengage from the grip of conflict and move forward.

Gail Angelo

Coaching and Consulting
26 years of Leadership Experience

GailAngelo.com
@GailCoaching

What are the most important values you demonstrate as a leader?

The most important values for me as a leader include service, compassion and supporting the greatest potential of those I interact with and lead.

What is the difference between a leader and a boss?

A leader inspires people to action regardless of position and/or subject matter expertise. They are strategic in their thinking. They are Agile in their approach to getting things done. Leaders create followership. They are self-aware people with integrity and character, and they actively influence cultures of the same characteristics. A leader is someone you ARE. A boss is something you DO. Bosses are often more about position than about character, and not all bosses are leaders.

How do you build cohesion among teams who disagree?

I start with what is working and where teams do agree. I look for common ground, which is typically around purpose. There will never be a team without disagreement. Consequently, I promote a culture of respectful disagreement. Oftentimes, it is out of disagreement that some of the most creative and best solutions arise.

How do you motivate your team?

I start by engaging them by explaining the purpose of the team. Why does the team exist? What can they connect with? I see them for who they are as people as well as professionals. I support them in seeing the value of each other. I play to their strengths. I ask what they like to do and what they do best. I maximize opportunities for leveraging their strengths. I thank them publicly. I provide balanced, clear, actionable and timely feedback. I communicate with transparency. I trust them.

What leadership style do you use?

My leadership style is inclusive and collaborative. I thrive on collective ideas and input. Ideas and input help make us better and more Agile in times of rapid and complex change.

As a leader, how do you measure success?

Bottom line results The team’s sense and/or feeling of fulfillment Engagement Serving as a model to/for other teams as to how to get things done well

How do you resolve conflict?

  • Get the facts
  • Encourage open dialogue directly with the person
  • Set an expectation that conflict is not always bad if dealt with constructively
  • Model what you want, and set the expectation that there will be no gossip, no rumor mill
  • Listen well, and encourage others to do the same!

Extending a big thanks to Villanova University for their commitment to leadership, education and for inviting me to participate in this leadership listicle.

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Are you running on empty

Now, as you read these words someone you lead, work for or love is running on empty.  Are you running on empty?  Are your people running on empty? Increasingly stressful work environments, heavy work loads and dwindling resources, cynicism and negativity from coworkers adds fuel to the job dissatisfaction, frustration and negativity that destroys our greatest purpose and potential from inside out.

Is your work environment becoming increasingly stressful or frustrating?  Is negativity creeping or invading your thoughts and impacting your actions?  Do you have difficulty reflecting upon your day and finding rewarding, meaningful experiences that made you feel on purpose? Are you questioning your career or life? Do you get up in the morning with an increasing feeling of dread or stress? Are you doing ‘just enough’ at work and life to get by, hoping that the next “miracle” course or turn of events will bring hope and positive change?

If you answered yes to one of the aforementioned questions, you are not alone. Studies tell us that if you are not running on empty, someone you know, lead, work for or love is.  The World Health Organization forecasts that stress will be the major cause of physical disability in the world by 2030, and depression the most common malady by 2020. These are not new forecasts, and they deserve our attention.  You can only hit a target you can see, and dumbing or numbing down the rapid growth of smart, capable, great people running on empty is the path to ultimate dismay and defeat.  The engine of economic and social survival and growth in this century is not controlling the mode of production, but actualizing human purpose and potential to think better, communicate/collaborate better and stoke the fire of meaning and purpose that will keep us moving forward at the speed of change, in the face of challenges, stressors even failures.

Signs of Running on Empty

  • Exhaustion

  • Reduced ability to feel sympathy and empathy

  • Anger and irritability

  • Increased use of alcohol and drugs

  • Dread of working with certain clients

  • Diminished sense of enjoyment of career

  • Heightened anxiety or irrational fears

  • Intrusive thoughts

  • Hypersensitivity or insensitivity to emotional material

  • Difficulty separating work life from personal life

  • Absenteeism – missing work, taking many sick days

  • Presenteeism-being at work but not really contributing.

  • Problems with intimacy and in personal relationships

  • Changes in sleeping and/or eating patterns

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Seize the day.  Make a critical shift forward by recognizing and actualizing your power to be the difference and to make a difference. I remain committed and dedicated to helping as many people as I can shift forward by learning to recognize and actualize strengths while transforming challenges into a lever for their greatest potential, happiness and success; their 3Q Edge™  Download Your Free E-book, Leading and Succeeding in Disruptive Times-A 3Q Primer

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The litmus test of your greatest happiness rests on your ability to find freedom from that which will only lead us down a path of instant gain and long-term pain. It is  easy to become a slave to our ego (the need to be validated by others), or to the demands of others.  It is easy to develop “soft addictions” to avoid areas of our life that run against our true purpose, our desire and nature to love and to share.  “ Soft addictions”  like getting hooked on t.v., focusing on negativity or being a workaholic are facile ways to distract us from what really matters to us.

When we choose to be addicted to that which helps us avoid that which is difficult or painful we lose touch with the fact that our greatest sense of purpose comes in sharing, contributing and giving.   Whether you are addicted to TV, video games or shopping your soft addictions are a trap. How can you gain the personal freedom to empower our best thoughts, engage our greatest actions and live our best lives when we are facing a change or challenges that has impacted the landscape of our life or work?

Happiness is a choice that starts with being grateful for the gift of life and to look at your glass as half full.  It starts with championing the faith, hope, courage, integrity and humanity that can lift YOU  from where we are to where we need to go.  We can start by learning to appreciate the present moment.  We can gain perspective by taking time to reflect, time to really live in the present moment so that we can be still and hear our inner voice.  

Mindfulness is something that is top of mind for leaders, as it helps drive cognition, ideation and resiliency.  It needs to be top of mind for us all!  Take nine minutes out of your busy day to be mindful-try the 3 minute Pause exercise three times a day, and you will see a difference in your state of mind, focus and the feeling of gratitude that elevates your consciousness and your soul.

We can make a choice to step back and see challenges, changes, even failures with new eyes that take us forward; new eyes that help us tap into our true power and acknowledge that we have a purpose that is bigger than the challenge, bigger than the change or failure are facing.

Our true power is the power to choose freedom over slavery, happiness over despair by refusing to be a slave to our thoughts, by pointing them in new directions that take us forward.  Is it time to recognize that every thought and action that feeds your need to be validated by someone else, makes you a slave to your ego and to the demands and expectations of others?  Is it time to re-awaken and re-inspire your best self and best thoughts?

Take a moment, take this moment to be still and reflect on what you truly want and need. You can choose to elevate this day by taking one small step that will bring happiness to another human being.  It can be a simple smile to a co-worker; it can be anything we choose.  Just one small, simple gift of goodness will add a drop of greatness to your day. Pie in the sky?  Think again!  Take a moment to spread a little goodness, because doing good feels good.

Choosing not to follow the crowd, choosing to empower and enable thoughts and actions that disable your best self and thoughts is to choose slavery over freedom, happiness over despiare. At a time when the World Health Organizations forecasts that stress related ailments and depression will become the major causes of physical and emotional disability in the world, the imperative to strengthen your resolve to focus on that which truly empowers and enables your best self, best thoughts and best actions is clear.

Seize this day, empower this moment by choosing freedom over slavery. Find your happy spot. Refuse to be a part of the silent war of negativity, discouragement, disengagement, depression and despair.  Tap into YOUR power to think differently, communicate differently and develop a NEW relationship with your strengths and challenges that takes YOU forward!

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Motivating People Beyond Money

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 Irene Becker, Founder, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ)
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The imperative to make a critical shift forward is written on the walls of our workplaces.  Money is not enough, because in a world of increasing change, challenges, competition the litmus test, the NEW currency of success is providing YOUR people, YOUR bread and butter, the foundation of YOUR success, with a workplace that is purposeful, engaging and allows them to not only grow professionally but personally.  

Delighted to share a guest post by internationally acclaimed speaker and trainer, Chris Atkinson.  Thank you Chris for your important work.  I am sure that your upcoming seminar Transformational Leadership-Moving Beyond Money  at World of Learning, Birmingham, UK will be received by a captivate audience Sept 30th

 

Motivating People Beyond Money by Chris Atkinson
Motivating People Beyond Money

 

Despite a growing body of research to the contrary most organisations remain fixated on incentive and punishment as the key methodologies for employee motivation and engagement. Many leaders find it hard to imagine an organisational context where money isn’t the driving force behind the motivation of their people. Whilst money will remain the primary reason why most of us decide to work it actually isn’t an effective motivator nor is it actually very effective as a means to drive higher performance.

If you see organisations like an engine, any engine needs fuel. The traditional fuel that powers that engine was incentive and reward or punishment and fear. The features of this engine design were bonus schemes, performance awards, KPI based management, disciplinary processes and even anger/aggression. What we’re seeing today is that the current workforce is running on a different kind of fuel so the ‘engine’ of the organisation must now change in response. The workforce we have today is fuelled by wanting to do meaningful work, wanting to feel trusted, wanting to feel respected. Our organisations now need to change their design accordingly so that we are able to use that particular fuel.

Let’s move away from the analogy to real life. A simple way to understand this is to ask yourself, “When my boss asks me to do something, why am I agreeing to do it?” The answer will fall into two camps:

1) I’ve got to do it because it’s my job, because I’m contracted to do it, because I’m afraid of punishment or because maybe there’s a reward which I desire, it could even be that there’s some politics at play meaning I want to keep my boss happy.

2) Because I’d enjoy doing it, because I agree with it, it feels right to me, I want to support my boss, I see it as a positive challenge.

This is hugely important to organizations right now because the historical relationship between employee and employer is about, “I give you x amount of hours in return for a certain amount of salary.” The thing with this transaction is it has to be equal and fair. The problem becomes, as companies ask employees to do more, to give more hours, to put more effort in, most people aren’t seeing more salary so the transaction starts to look unfair .

Organizations are starting to realize that they need deeper relationships with their employees in order to rise above the wave of turbulence in the industry.

Simply put, the traditional methodology of organisational performance management ensured employees came to work for money and kept working by carrot or stick systems. The modern design of high performing organisations has taken a radical step away from this design and in doing so it seeing a radical shift in organisational performance.

The research is unequivocal; a 2013 paper by Gallup looked at 263 research studies across 192 organisations in 49 industries and 34 countries. In total, they studied 49,928 business units including 1,390,941 employees. Their findings showed that organisations with an average of 9.3 engaged employees for every actively disengaged employee experienced 147% higher earnings per share (EPS) compared with their competition.

I’m sure you recognise that what you enjoy in work, what gives you satisfaction in work, it’s not really about the pay cheque and benefits, those are very important to you but they don’t cause you to feel energetic, passionate, dedicated or absorbed. These words come from a different place; they come from intrinsic motivation, a feeling from inside ourselves rather than from external stimulus. With this in mind organizations today need to focus on how they create a sense of EMOTIONAL rewards and satisfaction for employees. The key influencing areas to drive emotional satisfaction in work are:

  1. i) Line manager personality

  2. ii) Characteristics of day to day work

iii) Organisational culture

  1. iv) Senior team qualities/traits

  2. v) Induction and orientation process

If we want to change the design of our organisations then we need to take a deep and hard look at these critical areas. We need to change the design of the organisational engine to promote intrinsic satisfaction from work, environment and our working relationships. This cannot happen through management, through process and systems. This is a human issue and needs human solutions.

In conclusion, I would emphasize that this doesn’t mean we can get employees to work really hard and not pay them. People are always going to want to be fairly and appropriately compensated for the work that they do and moreover it’s right that organisations reward people for their efforts, time and even sacrifices. But the key is, beyond these things we must find a more meaningful and a deeper relationship with our employees.

There is a wealth of motivation to be found once we move beyond money.

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•The Leadership Equation:  Building Great Leadership
Performance Optimization and Success in Disruptive Times
•Smart and Fast are NOT Enough:  What YOU Need to Know about EQ

 

Author Bio: Chris Atkinson
Training Design Director, Elysian Training | International Speaker

Chris AtkinsonChris is a passionate business speaker who combines strong commercial and training focus with a deep psychological knowledge to inspire individuals and businesses. He travels internationally as speaker specialising in engagement, organisational culture and inspiring leadership. Starting his career in 2001 Chris has worked with diverse business sectors in more than 20 countries worldwide with 43 different nationalities. In April 2015 he was featured on the front cover of Realizing Leadership magazine.

 

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I Choose The Road Less Traveled

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I Choose The Road Less Traveled

I choose the road less traveled.

•I love myself because from a place of self-love my ego is quiet, my awareness and compassion are restored.

•I serve with an open mind and heart because that which is closed withers and dies.

•I learn with passion and re-learn with vigour because each day is a blessing, an opportunity to learn, share and contribute.

•I know that my strengths are a gift, my challenges are a lever for my greatest purpose, potential and growth.

•I lead forward with faith, hope, courage, humanity and integrity because these are the only true riches we have; they are the virtues, the power within that no man can cast asunder.  They are the anchors for our best thoughts, best work and greatest contribution to a stronger, better future.

I choose the road less traveled because to lead is to serve, to be grateful is to grow, to know is to care…

 

My work does not and cannot speak to everyone. It touches smart, forward thinkers; people who have the courage to seek higher ground, people who know in their hearts that we each have a role to play in building a better world, a better future. I think this 182 word post says a lot, and my new site, revamped blog and a whole new terrific assortment of offerings, practical powerful simple ways to recharge-refocus-repower and LEAD FORWARD will say even more.

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•Inspiring Posts 
The Secret to Peace and Prosperity
What Does Leadership Really Mean?
The Soul of Leadership-The Heart of Sustainability
I Will NOT Be Broken-The Call to Build a Better Future
Great Leadership and The Call to Lead Greatly
Against All Odds-A True Story of Hope, Courage and Leadership
Picking the Golden Apple
Five Ways to Lead Forward by Championing the Challenge

•Inspiring Compendiums of Quotes, Info-graphics and Information
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Over 700 posts and Infographics on NeuroScience and Brain Facts

 

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How to Build and Develop Business in 2015| Practical Tips and Insights

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Business-as-Usual-Gaping-Void-300x225Building and Developing Business Requires a New Focus; because the velocity of challenges, hyper-competition facing all businesses is extraordinary. The rules of the game have changed; what worked in the past, may be irrelevant tomorrow.  The ability to focus forward, to learn, lead and succeed forward depends on your ability to recognize the new arena while using both strengths and challenges as a lever for new strategies, new ways of communicating, collaborating and growing business at the speed of change. Read More:  The Next Revolution is Already Here

 

How To Build and Develop Business in 2015Building Strong Entrepreneurial and Intra-Preneurial Skills is the Way Forward
The imperative for entrepreneurs, small and mid-size business owners to understand this new arena and negotiate it in ways that generate results is particularly important because the birth of more and more entrepreneurs and entrepreneurial companies will continue to swell. Courage, agility, communication influence, collaboration, integrity of purpose and products are integral to building, developing and landing business in 2015.  Interestingly, baby boomers are starting business at a 2:1 ratio compared with their millennial counterparts  READ more

A recent linked in post by Dr. Roshawnna Novelus on How to Fail like Barbara Corcoron inspired this post >>  Read the article in its entirety  

“Despite her $80 million net worth and tremendous success as a businesswoman and television personality, “Shark Tank” star Barbara Corcoran is no stranger to failure.” Ms. Corcoran’s recent course on the Fundamentals of entrepreneurship includes core philosophies that have been part of her success.  1.  Embrace Fear    2. Develop Immense  Optimism  3 Create Pressure and Don’t Overanalyze 4. Fake It Until You Are It Core philosophies that resonated profoundly, because the ability to fail forward is critical not only to entrepreneurship, but to enhancing resiliency, grit, focus on what counts, business skill/innovation. Read 2015 Global Trends and the Business of Success

 

Refocus, Reflect and Repurpose Your Greatest Potential and Results
Take time today to reflect upon what you are doing that is works (keep it) and what you need to change and what you want to transform in order to build, develop and land business.  Change is not the problem, it is the solution. Helping you shift your relationship with change and challenges so that we you can use both as a catalyst for your greatest potential and results is what my 3Q work is all about Learn more about 3Q-Listen to Leadership 3.0 Podcast stayed tuned for our new website, blog and podcast series!

 

The Soul of Leadership-The HHow Can YOU Build and Develop Business in 2015?
The importance of not only learning to Fail Forward but seeing our strengths AND challenges we face with new eyes that take us forward faster and stronger is critical.  Sharing a collection of insights and tips on doing just that!  Insights, tips and tools for entrepreneurs, small and mid-sized business owners who want to communicate, lead and succeed forward!

 More about what’s new, what’s hot and what’s not?  YOU Betcha!  
Over 400 articles on Business at the Speed of Change

 

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The Soul of Leadership-The Heartbeat of Sustainability

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Building a Better, Stronger Tomorrow
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A great conversation with Sunny Lee-Goodman, Director of Public Practice at Lapin International inspired this post.  We were speaking about purpose, about David Lapin’s excellent book Lead by Greatness and what greatness really means.  Sunny encouraged me to write the words that are etched on my soul. Thank you for encouraging me to write about the soul of leadership, Sunny!

 

The Soul of Leadership-The Heartbeat of Sustainability

Lead Forward Because YOU Can

Seize this day to ignite the power within, get inspired by the soulful voice that is the heartbeat of sustainability. Listen to YOUR beautiful voice, your leader’s voice, and hear its goodness, courage, integrity

and

humanity. It is the voice that lifts you when you see natural beauty, it is the feeling that touches you when you do something that helps another; it is the antithesis of the need, greed

and

ego that pulls at us all and beckons us to make an important choice between what we feel me need at the moment and what we know will help us build or contribute to a better, stronger future.
Read more:  Our Greatest Hope

 

The Soul of Leadership-The Heartbeat of Sustainability

Stronger Together

The soul of leadership is the heartbeat of sustainability.  It is the voice of courage and the strength of character that helps you do something that is difficult because you know it is the right thing to do and will, in the end serve the greatest good.  It is the spark of the Creator, the light of the infinite source of goodness that can change a life and many lives because it speaks to our best as human beings; our ability to put down our emotional or political swords and recognize that which is stronger than anything else, our ability to learn to adapt, evolve and thrive together.
Read More:  Building and Sustaining Great Leadership-7 Timeless Commitments

 

 

The Soul of Leadership-The Heartbeat of SustainabilityLeadership is found in those difficult and often dark times when we are caught between a rock and a hard place; those times doing the right thing is as critical as finding a new way, a different way to think, communicate or execute.  A way that helps you engage and grow your 3Q Edge™ by recognizing your strengths AND using the challenges, changes, stressors AND failures to BUILD your greatest potential and results:

 

Q1) IQ    Cognitive dexterity, focus, strategic thought, innovative thought and execution

Q2) EQ   Emotional intelligence, resiliency, communication, and  collaboration across boundaries

Q3) SQ   Integrity of spirit, purpose, values and the growth of intrinsic motivators that keep one leading forward in disruptive times.

 

The Soul of Leadership-The Heartbeat of Sustainability

 

My first name is grit. My journey through successful times, recessions, difficult, gut-wrenching and even life-threatening times taught me as much as many years of dedicated study and practical work with clients helping them optimize their leadership, communication, career and business potential by seeing strengths and challenges with new eyes.  Read More:  3Q Leadership Benefits and Why I Have Dedicated My Life to This Work

 

The Soul of Great Leadership-The Heartbeat of SustainabilityMy second name is determined.  I have dedicated my life to helping smart people and organizations build their 3Q Edge™ because the only way forward is together, the only way out of the morass of challenges that threaten our individual and collective social and economic well-being is have the grit and determination to think differently, communication and collaborate across boundaries while building the soulful, powerful, timeless anchors that tie us all together irrespective of age, stage, culture or any type of boundary. Read more: What Does Leadership REALLY Mean?

 

The Soul of Great Leadership-The Heart of SustainabilityMy third name is soulful; the desire to learn, share and contribute punctuates my days and my work. Take a moment right now to be soulful.  How are you building and growing soulful leadership?  How can you use what is to create what can be in your life and the lives of others?  Make a perceptual shift, develop a new relationship with strengths, changes and challenges the empowers YOUR best self and work?  What do you really want to create in this lifetime that will last after you are not here?  Read More:  The Secret to Peace and Prosperity

 

 

 

Seize the Day-Ignite Your Greatest Power!

Seize the Day-Ignite Your Greatest Power!

Seize this day to ignite the power within, because YOU can.  Get inspired by a soulful voice that cannot be cast asunder, and can take you forward in ways you cannot even begin to imagine.  True power lies not in what we consume or have, but in what we contribute.

More on Soulful Leadership, Sustainable Leadership and Staying Inspired?  YOU Betcha!

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Building a Better Future: Mission, Vision, Values 
The Individual and Organizational Imperative for 3Q Leadership™

 

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Re-imagine, Re-Invent, Engage and Lead Forward in Disruptive Times

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“Employee engagement and culture are now business issues, not just topics for HR to debate. And there’s no place for organizations to hide.”  Deloitte University Press, Feb 2015

2015 Global Trends and the Business of Success
Practical Tips on Leadership, Organizational Development/Growth and Success in Disruptive Times | A 3Q Perspective

© Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ) | Building a Better, Stronger Tomorrow
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Re-invent, Re-Imagine, Engage and LEAD Forward

Adapt, evolve and thrive…or die. The 2015 Global Human Capital Trends report by Deloitte pinpoints 4 critical pivot points for success; leading, engaging, re-inventing and re-imaging. You can run, but you cannot hide. The revolution is already here, and neutral is a negative.  What worked yesterday may be impotent today or tomorrow; the need to shift forward is critical and it depends upon your attitude, your ability to re-imagine, engage, re-invent and LEAD forward. Read More: Deloitte 2015 Global Human Capital Trends Report

 

 

Success means seeing things differently

Success means seeing things differently

Do YOU see the opportunity before YOU?  Look again.  It’s there.  Will you become a pioneer in a new world of work and business?  A solution driven champion who will inspire, model and engage their first customers (their people) by helping them optimize talent, potential, purpose and results?  Will you use what is to create what CAN be or become a victim of what was and what will NOT take you forward at a speed of change, challenges and competition that will continue to accelerate? Read more:  The Revolution is Already Here-Adapt, Evolve and Thrive

 


Build Your 3Q Leadership Edge

Build Your 3Q Leadership Edge

Leadership means making the critical shift forward and helping your people do the same. It means building YOUR 3Q Leadership™ Edge; your ability to think differently, communicate/collaborate across boundaries while building the anchors that drive leadership, engagement, purpose and sustainability. Being smart and fast are important, but they are no longer enough.  The imperative for smart, fast, forward thinkers to champion new ways, faster ways of optimizing great thought, communication, collaboration and results has never been greater.  The buck stops here, and it starts with you.  Read More:  The Individual and Organizational Imperative for 3Q Leadership™

 

 

 

Optimize Your Potential

Optimize Your Potential

Words make worlds and the words you choose to think and share are the seedbed for what you will or will not create. Will you change your definition of winning so that victory speaks to the collaboration, the optimization of human purpose, potential and results that is critical to our individual and collective ability to not simply survive AND thrive?  Will you change your words, because the way you choose to think, the words you choose to share create your perspective.  Every time you think or say “change is difficult” you are strengthening a neural pathway, giving power to an outdated habit of thinking that will not and cannot take you forward.  Read More:  Worlds Make Worlds-Opening the Door to a Better Present and Future

 


Re-imagine, Re-invent, Engage and LEAD Forward
Change is not the problem; it’s the solution that drives great thought, great leadership and great organizations.  The ability of smart, fast, forward thinkers to USE change, challenges, stressors, even failures as a positive lever for their greatest potential and results is real and critical.  The imperative to stretch and grow, adapt, evolve and thrive by honing your ability to build cognitive and emotional dexterity (Q1 and Q2) while developing (Q3) the spiritual capital; the integrity of purpose, great leadership and intrinsic motivation is before you.   Read more:  Enlightened Self Interest:  Building a Thriving, Resilient Culture

 

 

 

Re-Imagine, Re-invent, Engage and LEAD Forward

Re-Imagine, Re-invent, Engage and LEAD Forward

Re-imagine, re-invent, engage and LEAD forward,  because you can. Adapt, evolve and thrive…or die. Celebrate YOUR ability to be the difference and champion the difference by making positive change and the development of all three Q strengths a living reality.  Find new ways, faster and better ways to think differently, communicate/collaborate across boundaries while building the anchors that drive and sustain leadership, engagement, purpose and results; ways that can help you, ways that can help your people build their 3Q Edge™.  Carpe Diem!  Read More:  Re-focus, Re-purpose, Re-power: Ten Practical 3Q Personal Development and Leadership Tips

 


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Possibility Thinking, Doing and Results (Part 1) A 3Q Portfolio of Strengths
Possibility Thinking, Doing and Results (Part 2) 5 Success Benchmarks
A Growing Compendium of  475 Great Leadership and 3Q Leadership Articles

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts this month. Stay Tuned!

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Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | (IQ-EQ-SQ)
Face to Face, By Telephone, Skype or Video Conferencing
Programs, Services and Keynotes for a Better, Stronger Tomorrow
Leadership Growth, Communication Influence, Career Optimization in Disruptive Times
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Re-focus, Re-Purpose, Re-Power

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New mindset = new result!

10 Practical Ways to Re-focus, Re-purpose, Re-power in Disruptive Times (and a BIG list of practical, inspiring 3Q personal development links and tips)

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New Mindset-New Result

Take Back Your Power to Make a Difference-Because YOU Can

Who is writing this post? What do I know about this topic? More than most people.

I have been to the top of the mountain, and I have started again from ground zero with challenges and seemingly impossible odds staring me in the face.  You can read my story and the genesis of my 3Q Leadership work…you can read my bio OR you can reflect upon what causes someone to be passionate about your ability to not simply play to strengths but to transform changes, challenges, stressors AND even failures into a powerful lever for our greatest potential and results. Potential and results that speak to your talent, your purpose your ability to make a difference in a way that will positively impact your life and the lives of others.

Life and career were complicated enough before we entered this new VUCA (volatility-uncertainty, change, ambiguity) world.  Is there an upside?  Yes! 

Success means recognizing and accelerating your ability to learn/re-learn, rethinking and finding new ways of communicating, collaborating and executing that help you use what is to create what can be in yourself and in others.  It means actualizing your greatest potential, and this potential is ignited when you recognize YOUR ability to make a difference. New Mindset-New Result.

Here are 10 Ways to Re-focus, Re-Purpose-Repower!
New Mindset=New Result

 

Be Your Own Hero

Be Your Own Hero

1. Be Your Own Hero.  Focus on YOUR Greatest Power-YOUR True Power.

Whether you seek to lead your best life, lead your team, organization or country you will need to lead greatly. Leading greatly means understanding and enabling YOUR true power. It means championing yourself, rather than waiting for someone to champion you. True power is not the power of domination, exploitation, ego or arrogance; true power is the fire of faith, hope, courage, integrity and humanity; it is the spark plug that can help you be your own hero! Read more…

 

 

 

 

Ask the right questions

Ask questions that take YOU forward!

2. Ask yourself the right questions. What are YOU doing with your life? What do YOU really want to achieve?

What new personal rituals/habits of thinking are you developing to inspire, empower and engage YOUR best self?

How can YOU shut down YOUR negative self talk in ways that empower YOUR best thoughts and feelings?  Read more…

 

 

Build Mindfulness

Build Mindfulness

3. Make mindfulness part of your daily practice…in less than 10 minutes a dayNo time to meditate….Try The Pause-Yes, in 3 minutes you can put your brain in an alpha state, develop greater mindfulness and repower!

Click for the 3 minute Pause exercise Science confirms that mindfulness is critical to health, cognition, ideation, longevity, happiness, creativity.  Meditating, praying, chanting all build mindfulness…so does doing a simple exercise like The Pause.

 

 

Develop Self Awareness

Build Greater Self Awareness


4. Build self-awareness; develop a better, stronger relationship with yourself and others. 
How can you build a better stronger relationship with yourself?How can you build a better stronger relationship with others?

Take time to reflect and build self-awareness and your relationship with yourself because doing so is critical to establishing and building better relationships with others.  Read more...

 

 

 

 

 

Develop "Cool Tools" Five minute rituals to refocus, recharge and repower!

Develop “Cool Tools” Five minute rituals to refocus, recharge and repower!

5.  Use “Cool Tools” 5 minute rituals that bring out your best; personal rituals you can do almost anywhere that help you refocus-recharge and re-power.

Cool tools (5 minute rituals) you can use almost anywhere, and that will help you re-set the GPS so that you are empowered, solution focused and ready to do and feel your best!  Click for an excellent list of 5 minute Cool Tools…

 

 

 

Fail Forward!

Fail Forward!

6. Turn failure around by using it to succeed and to build the cognitive dexterity, emotional dexterity and resiliency that are critical. Crazy? Really? Think again. Being able to see them with new eyes, learning to use them as positive and powerful stepping-stones to your greatest potential and results is the way forward.

Yes, in the middle of failure there are many levels of opportunity and growth! Read more…

 

 

 

 

Inspire Yourself

Inspire Yourself

7. Inspire yourself.  The choice is before you, is before us all; you can choose to champion the best or be swept away by the worst.

Let’s face it, we are primally wired to be on the look out for predators; negativity and fear will catch our immediate attention. Yes, it is time to re-set the primal wiring!

You can feed your mind, your brain, your soul with intake that inspires, engages and challenges your forward or give in to the ongoing climate of volatility, uncertainty, change and ambiguity that characterizes this time of great paradox and transition.  Finding one simple way each day to feel inspired, developing personal rituals of inspiration is critical.  Read more…

 

 

 

 

Inspire Others

Inspire Others

8.  Inspire Others
Find a way each day to inspire another person forward. Just like volunteering your time makes you feel good, simply sharing a smile, a word or gesture that inspires someone else will positively impact your day. Mirror neurons enable us to sense the feelings of others. Pass positivity forward by inspiring another person and watch the inspiration ripple grow!   Read more…

 

9.  See your story with new eyes that help you appreciate your strengths/talents while transforming challenges into a lever for grit, greatness, potential and results.  Read more…

 

 

Build Your 3Q Edge

Build Your 3Q Edge-Use strengths and challenges as positive levers for your potential and results!

10.  Build YOUR 3Q Edge™ You cannot defy gravity, but you can learn to optimize strengths while also transforming changes, challenges, stressors (even failures) into a lever for your greatest potential and results- Neuroscience confirms that our brains are neuro-plastic; we have the ability to re-write patterns of thinking, communicating and doing. Read more…

More? Always! A selection of passionate, inspiring and practical 3Q personal leadership and personal development  posts and tips:

 

 

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts this month. Stay Tuned!

Are you ready to find a new way, a better and faster way to build strong leadership, communication influence and career success at the speed of change/challenges? We are here to help!

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Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | (IQ-EQ-SQ)
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Five Truths and Business Development Best Practices

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Cheat Sheet:  Business Development | A 3Q Perspective
(Including over 400 bonus business links)

©Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ)
3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!

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The imperative to hone your ability to communicate and sell your ideas, your products, your services/organization is more than the litmus test of sales people and those involved in business development.  We are living in a whole new world and marketplace where the ability to communicate and get buy in is critical.

Here are some business development truths and best practices for people who want to improve results by building their 3Q Edge™ as it relates to sales and business development:  Q1) Improved focus, creative and strategic thinking    Q2) Emotional mastery, relationship building, communication influence/buy-in   Q3)  Integrity of purpose, communication and execution.

Truth #1:     It is all about THEM.  

Best Practice #1: Refocus.  ASK Questions that demonstrate your interest and allow the prospect to talk about the challenges YOU will then demonstrate you can

Truth # 2:  Good business is built on trust; trust is built by developing good relationships.

Best Practice #2: Empower your confidence, so you can empower their confidence and engage them in a win-win relationship.

Truth # 3:  Focus on benefits, not features. Your prospect does not want to hear how great you are, they want to know that you care, understand and can solve their problem/pain point.

Best Practice #3:  Communicate Effectively. Learn how to open the ears of your prospect; speak their language and make sure they understand your message and your commitment to helping them solve their challenges.

Truth # 4:   You cannot light a fire with wet wood.  Emotional buy-in is critical.  Demonstrate that you understand and care before you back up how you can help solve their challenges with facts/logic/ data.

Best practice #4:  Hone your ability to understand, empathize and connect with your prospect. Great salesmanship is demands emotional intelligence.

Truth # 5:  Success means creating value for others; a 3Q equation that demands

Q1)   Focus, strategic and creative thinking

Q2)  Emotional intelligence, communication skills

Q3)  Integrity of purpose, communication and execution

Best Practice #5:   Harvest your best results by having:

1.      A goal.

2.  A commitment to listen, observe, understand and meet the needs of others.

3.   A process to prospect, monitor and follow up.

Business development is a 3Q Equation that can be achieved with REACH™-5 simple, powerful steps that form the basis for 3Q coaching, and can help you adapt, grow and build new skills and strengths!

Redirect focus (prime your brain for success)
Empower confidence (build engagement)
Communicate Effectively (trust and rapport)
Actualize (sales + relationship potential)
Harvest Results (and re-harvest)

More on Business Development?  YOU Betcha.  Here come the bonus links!

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog will debut soon!
Featuring expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders. Stay Tuned!

Are you ready to find a new way, a better and faster way to build strong leadership, communication influence and career success at the speed of change/challenges? We are here to help!

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Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | (IQ-EQ-SQ)
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Programs, Services and Keynotes for a Better, Stronger Tomorrow
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Get Smarter, Happier and Take Control of YOUR Time!  

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5 Practical Tips and More…
A Time Management Self Quiz and Over 1500 Great Infographics and Posts! 

©Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ)
3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!

 

Now Red Word And Clock

PsyBlog recently shared 20 Everyday Activities That Keep Memory and Thinking Sharp  If you have not read the post, it is a worthy read in that it details simple ways to stay sharp that are centered around crafts, artistic activities and socializing. Yes, that’s right you can enhance your memory and develop sharp thinking by engaging in activities that are FUN.

 

Getting smarter, happier and taking control of your timeWhat did you accomplish yesterday?  Did your accomplishments include an activity that fed your imagination, your emotions and brought a smile to your face?  Why is cultivating your imagination, your emotional wellbeing and your sense of happiness important?
1.  Health
2.  Cognitive ability
3.  Emotional well-being/resiliency
4.  Productivity-yes being happier increases productivity

How much time did you waste yesterday locked in a battle of frustration or stress that sucked your energy, limited your productivity? The imperative to start one’s day with not only goals, but intentions that take us forward is critical.  Time spent organizing your thoughts, your intentions and resetting your attitude so that you are prepared to seize the day rather than having the day seize you is time well spent.  How can you optimize your time?  Build a stronger brain, enhance emotional resiliency, improve your attitude, inject fun and human social time into your day?

Get smarter, happier and take control of your timeWhat’s stopping you?  Many people will say that they do not have time, but each day holds 24 hours, 1,440 minutes or 86,400 seconds that must be devoted to not simply work, but to the fun activities, the leisure time, the down time that helps our brain, our emotions and our souls survive and thrive!

 

 

 

Get smarter, happier and take control of your time

Here are five simple, powerful steps, a time management self quiz and some excellent posts and tips to help you get smarter, feel happier and take control of your time!


dwight-eisenhower1.  Prioritize and plan! Find a simple, practical way to get organized
. Developed by President Eisenhower, this simple matrix is brilliant and powerful. I have worked with many Project Managers with large portfolios and responsibilities.  Most of my PMP clients love the Eisenhower chart, and all clients who use it find it helpful because it is practical, simple and allows you to transfer areas of priority from one day to the next!

Eisenhower Chart:
Divide a sheet of paper into four columns, prioritizing what you must do now, need to do asap, can do in the future and other items that can wait.
Use a new chart each day.

Urgent                                                 Important

To Do                                                  Can Wait

 

 

Get smarter, happier and take control of your time2.  Start your day with the right attitude.  What YOU focus on grows! Attitude is altitude.  If you get up on the wrong side of the bed, find a personal ritual, a habit that will help you get positive and put a smile on your face.

Go ahead, find something that will make you smile, and get you to feel happier!

 

Get smarter, happier and control your time-image 63.  Words make worlds.  Watch your self-talk.  Close down the voice of negativity that follows you because your brain is wired to hunt out negativity and is the greatest conspiracy theorist you will meet.  Our primal wiring has us on the lookout for predators, and while it served us well when we were living in caves, it is in most cases a current day impediment because it directs our thoughts to all that is negative impedes our ability to see the solution, he caveat in the problem we are facing.

Get Happier, Smarter and Take Control of Your Time  4.  Stretch and grow! Be a change leader.  Embrace and grow your ability to change and evolve by doing simple things that build cognitive dexterity, emotional resiliency. Examples: Make one small change each day in a habitual routine.  Take a new way home.  Brush your teeth with your non-dominant hand.  Learn something new.  Start looking for the bright side in every change or challenge. Stretch and grow.

 

 

 

Get Happier, Smarter and Take Control of Your Time

5.  Understand your time management challenges and turn them around!  Adapt, optimize your time, your results and your ability live and lead forward!

Find the gap, understand where you are not optimizing your time and turn it around!  

 

 

quizTime Management Self-Quiz

Find one area you can improve and dedicate yourself to improving it for the next two weeks!   

1.  Do you separate urgent matters from other demands?

2.  Have you cultivated the art of remaining focused on what really counts, rather than being overloaded by extraneous information?

3.  Do you allocate one hour a day for ME time-time to think, read, plan, daydream, have fun or do something creative?

4.  Do you spend time each day cultivating relationships (business, personal, familial)?

5.  Are you focused on being the best you can be in the moment, rather than chasing some unattainable standard of perfection?

6.  Do you have a system that allows you to browse business or professional journals/articles you need to read in a way that is fast and effective without getting stuck in information overload?

7.  Do you make sure that you have regular holidays or work breaks that include experiences that are memorable and fun for you?

8.  Were you on time for all your appointments last week?

9.  Do you meet your work and personal deadlines?

10.  Do you return all phone calls and emails within 24 hours?

11.  Do you have a system for organizing and dealing effectively with emails?

12.  Are you working at a job you love or do you have a career plan to find a new/different position?

13.  Have you mastered the art of delegating?

14.  Do you have a 3 year personal and career objectives, and a system to help you transform goals into results?

15.  Do you spend time each day nurturing your soul; finding ways to tap into your highest power that inspire your best self?

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Anything else?  You Betcha!  There is no time like the present to get smarter, happier and take control of YOUR time.  Here are some posts to help!

Cool Tools:  Exercises that take less than 5 minutes and can help you think, feel and do better!

Actualize Your Greatest Potential Now-3Q Edge™ Cheat Sheet

Best Self and Career-Ten Minute Self-Test

The Pause:  A 3 Minute, Simple, Powerful, Transformative Exercise

Get Re-inspired in Five Minutes or Less

Ten Ways to Build Happiness and Increase Productivity

The Happiness Compendium

Too Busy to Get Happy-Think again!

The Happiness Course

The Empowerment Compendium

Performance Optimization and Success in Disruptive Times

 Brain Food:  Over 600 Posts and Infographics

 Life, Happiness, Success:  Over 600 Infographics and Posts

 

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts end April 2015. Stay Tuned!

 Are you ready to find a new way, a better and faster way to build strong leadership, communication influence and career success at the speed of change/challenges? We are here to help!

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Irene Becker, Chief Success Officer
Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | (IQ-EQ-SQ)
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Programs, Services and Keynotes for a Better, Stronger Tomorrow
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Ten New Rules of Business Success

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Are YOU following the new rules of business success? New rules of business success will continue to grow as we move from the age of information to the age of innovation.  Here are ten new rules, and over 500 insightful and practical business and leadership links!

© Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ)
3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!

 

00Big fish, little fish, all fish swimming in this new world and marketplace must make a critical shift forward because changes, challenges, hyper-competition and the opportunities they present will continue to accelerate.  Every change, challenge or element of competition presents you with an opportunity to get unstuck; an opportunity to think, communicate or execute in a new way that takes YOU forward faster and better while helping you also build the cognitive and emotional dexterity, the ability to think differently/more creatively while building resiliency and grit is a winning combination! Success means thinking differently.

 


Ten New Rules of Business Success

1.  Champion the challenge by looking at your competition with new eyes! Study your competition to further determine what your clients and prospects want.  Discovering the WANT is critical in a crowded marketplace, as is finding new ideas and gaps in products and services that you can fill by finding a new, better or customized solution. The imperative to get innovative and entrepreneurial is critical. Read 3 More Lessons From Seth Godin: How To Build A Wildly Successful Business (Eric T. Wagner, Forbes 10/28/2014)

 

 

 

 

 

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2.  Be a red fish!  
Again, the imperative to be entrepreneurial, to adopt an entrepreneurial or intra-preneurial mindset is critical. Know your clients/prospects, get clear on your objectives and make sure that you are working every day to take them forward. We are in a whole new marketplace where bright upstarts are overtaking established brands; a new era of David and Goliath competition . Read Why Entrepreneurs Should Read Malcolm Gladwell’s David and Goliath, Glen Tulliman, Forbes                                                                                                                                                

 

Ten New Rules of Business Success 3.  Pack a purposeful punch!  Build a strong an resilient culture by developing  enlightened self interest! Purpose equals profit on a multiplicity of levels. Purpose speaks to the shared values and objectives that drive great leadership, great strategy, great teamwork, great innovation and collaboration, great communication. Purpose that speaks to your commitment to excellence and to serving employees, clients, stakeholders and the community your serve. Read Enlightened Self Interest

 

044.  Create the right environment for collaboration. Build a community of purpose; external and internal alliances of like-minded people with complimentary and different skills sets who share your values and objectives. Raising a child demands a village, so does building a successful business, professional practice or organization .  Creating the right environment for internal and external collaboration is critical and it includes developing stronger and better client relationships that drive customer service/satisfaction and help build your digital community of purpose Read Leadership Means Developing A Community of Purpose

 

 

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 5.  Communicate for influence across social, digital and cross generational lines.  Hone your ability to develop a communication skill set that is bigger than yourself, bigger than your intrinsic communication style or pattern. Do not be limited by habits of communication, because you can learn to effectively communicate across social, digital and cross generational lines, and doing so is critical to your success . Read From Now To How: Building Social, Virtual and Cross Generational Leadership

 

 

 

Ten New Rules of Business Success

6.  Cultivate a growth mindset.  Follow, read the landmark work of Carol Dweck around building a growth mindset. Remember, YOU are in control of your thoughts, and YOUR thoughts, YOUR perspective, YOUR ability to choose to grow, evolve and flourish is the fire that can and will take you fire. No desire, no growth; and if you are not growing your business, professional practice or organization will ultimately crumble, stumble, sputter and fail.  Read How Can You Change From A Fixed Mindset To A                                                                                                            Growth Mindset (Carol Dweck,                                                                                                                               Mindsetonline.com 2010)

 

 

Ten New Rules of Business Success7.  Be a change leader and champion; make change leadership skills a priority for your executive team, managers and people because developing a new relationship with change, is critical to the development of an entrepreneurial l (or intra-preneurial) mind-set and culture.  Read Corporate Entrepreneurship And It’s Importance For Large Companies (Ryan May, Businessdictionary.com Sept 2014)

 

 

 

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8.  Cultivate FOCUS.  
Focus on what really matters. Developing your ability to focus on what counts because it will help you learn and re-learn faster and better while being able to direct your attention to that which will help you in optimizing your potential and achieving better results.  Watch This Video:  Daniel Goleman-Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence

 

 

 

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9.  Fail forward.  The sheer velocity of change and challenges means that we will all fail.
Failing forward means not only developing grit and resiliency but also a new relationship with failure that will allow you to find the silver lining behind the cloud (see point #1-because the greatest innovations and successes often are born of failures).  Read Using Failure To Succeed: 7 Powerful, Practical Tips

 

 

 

 

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10.  Build YOUR 3Q Leadership™ Edge. Build three essential strengths YOU CAN learn to grow at the speed of change, challenges, stressors and failures. Adopt a new 3Q mindset because YOUR brain is neuro-plastic; science confirms that YOU can re-write patterns of thinking, communicating or doing that are not taking you forward. That’s right, you are not defined by what was, and have the ability to use what is to create what can be! Learning to think, communicate and execute in new ways will make you stronger and better. Read 3Q Leadership Exposed, Realizing Leadership Magazine Cover Story

 

Are YOU pushing the right buttons? Thinking in a way that will optimize solutions and results at a speed of change, challenges, hyper-competition? Doing what is necessary to tap into the opportunities that are before you? Finding better ways of communicating that create engagement, buy-in and collaboration? Make the critical shift forward because there is no time like the present to turn things around. Carpe diem!

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Free eBOOK: Leading and Succeeding in Disruptive Times-A 3Q Edge Primer

The Thriving Organization-10 Steps Out Of Jurassic Park

Enlightened Self Interest-Building a Strong, Resilient Culture

Consulting Success Tips by Seth Godin

Business Basics

Are YOU Leaving Business on the Table?

Finding New Sources of Profitable Growth

More than 350  Posts on Business at the Speed of Change!

 

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts end April 2015. Stay Tuned!

 Are you ready to find a new way, a better and faster way to build strong leadership, communication influence and career success at the speed of change/challenges? We are here to help!

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Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | (IQ-EQ-SQ)
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Programs, Services and Keynotes for a Better, Stronger Tomorrow
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Getting Unstuck: Empathy, Success and Living Well

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Getting unstuck means realizing that living well in a world of unreason is a commitment we must make to ourselves every day.

Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ)
3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!

We cannot lead, communicate and succeed well; we cannot take footsteps that  build a sustainable future without getting unstuck. Developing empathy for ourselves and others, while strengthening our resolve to live, lead and communicate to purpose is essential for our individual and collective survival. The economic, social and organizational argument for building empathy is addressed in a brilliant read, Born to Love:  Why Empathy Is Essential And Endangered by Maia Szalavitz and Bruce D. Perry, PH.d, M.D. 

 

Living Well

At a time when our access to knowledge, information and technology are unsurpassed in human history; and our standard of living is higher than ever before, few of us are truly living well. The World Health Organization forecasts that depression will be one of the most common problems by 2020. It is easy to be distracted by the growing demands of a life and career that charge forward and push us in ways we never expected.  It is easy to lose our footing, by forgetting what really counts.  Sadly, it is also facile to lose the human connection as we live and work in an exceedingly virtual world.  Human doing is not enough. When we forget to focus on human being better, we get stuck on a course of action that will undermine our greatest potential; potential to contribute, potential to make a positive difference, potential to find meaning and fulfillment in our lives and work.

 

Crazy ProfThe march of unreason has infiltrated our popular entertainment, music, and our lives. Too many of us ingest a regular diet of violence, discord, anger, fear that is cloaked in the guise of entertainment.  Living well is something that starts with personal transformation, with the realization that what matters most is not what happens to us, but what we choose to do with it.  The most difficult of circumstances or experiences can be transcended when we refuse to be a victim of what was, and start taking back our power to create and re-create what can be by striving to find our best self, our noblest thoughts, emotions and actions.

 

 

The secret to success is timeless. Create value for others, and you shall prosper and attain happiness.  Love yourself more, and you will feel greater tolerance and love for your fellow human beings. Build a fence around yourself that protects you from the greed and ego of those who are not able to share and seek only to take, because  sharing their company will not help you live well or create sustainable prosperity.


Every day presents us with a new opportunity to get unstuck, to remove the shackles that keep us bound to living and working on a collision course that is outstripping our energy, passion, purpose and potential.  Every day presents us with challenges that can be used help us build greater empathy for ourselves and others.   Take the free 3Q Life and Career Self Quiz!

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Get Inspired by World Changing Ideas and Innovations
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Leading and Succeeding in Disruptive Times-Top Ten Posts 2014

 

 

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts end March!   Stay Tuned!
 Are you ready to find a new way, a better and faster way to build strong leadership, communication influence and career success at the speed of change/challenges? We are here to help!

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7 Ways to Inspire, Engage and Enable YOUR Greatest Potential

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Post Views = 5470What is the value proposition that will fuel your purpose, passionate engagement and success? Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ) 3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing! How can I share a simple, powerful and important message that is the focus, the raison d’etre of my life and 3Q […]

Recharge! Inspire YOURself ( in 5 minutes or less!)

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3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!

iNSPIRE BY INSPIRED

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Stop.  Reflect.  The imperative to fill your emotional reservoir, light your own fire, re-motivate yourself is critical.  So many of us are focused on making more money, meeting the growing list of demands and responsibilities that make up the day that we forget to fill the emotional reservoir that keeps us happy, healthy.  Your reservoir that must be filled on a regular basis.  Frustration and stress create a biological reaction that attacks your immune system, emotional well-being, physical health and can also push even the best and brightest among us to say or do something that is counterproductive to personal or professional success.

I am here to remind you this second, this moment that YOU can develop personal rituals (I call them COOL TOOLS) that take less than 5 minutes a day; rituals that help you replenish your reservoir of personal power, resiliency….even happiness!

Here is a simple exercise from a workshop I did many years ago for executives and executive coaches called the Just Joy Workshop.  Try it, share it…and if you discover something new about your personal portal to more joy in life and at work, please write to me and let me know the new learning that has come from this simple exercise.

Instructions: Take a few second to relax, regroup and just take a pause from the mundane world.
Clear your head and write down the answers to three simple questions on a piece of
paper or in your journal.

Step One:
What is your name?  Not the name that you go by, a different name. I want you to find an emotion that describes you at your best and consider it your name for the day (i.e. joyful, caring, insightful, adventurous etc-that is going to be your new name.)  Write it down.

Step Two:
What is your job?  Not the title you have or the job description you fill but what you    really do every day.  i.e.  I sell high-end clothes.  Drill it down.  I help people look better so they can live  better and do better.  **If you are in career transition, here is a tome of info about successful career transition, and you can do the exercise by thinking about the job you enjoyed the most and what was YOUR job (as per step two)

Step Three:    
Write down how many times you did your job today.’

Step Four:
Write down what you can do on a daily basis to remind yourself of your answers
to step one and two because they are critical.  Purpose = profit on a multiplicity of levels.  Our ability to feel purposeful, our ability to build the intrinsic motivators (Q3 Strength-SQ) is critical.

Anything else?  If you get stuck…put the exercise aside and try another one!  Here is an excellent list of Cool Tools (Rituals you can do in 5 minutes or less to build YOUR 3Q Edge™)  Three Q what>>Click here to learn more!

Graphic Credit:  Hugh McLeod, Gaping Void Art

 

Efficiency to Effectiveness

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The Power of What
Actualizing YOUR Greatest Potential NOW
Best Self, Best Work-Ten Minute 3Q Focused Self Test!
The Happiness Compendium
The Happiness Course
The Empowerment Compendium
A Collection of Inspiring Life, Happiness and Success Infographics, Posts, Podcasts & Videos!

 

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The Ultimate How To Post

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© Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ (IQ-EQ-SQ)
3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!

 

The Ultimate How to Post:  A Compendium of Practical, Powerful Tips with a 3Q Focus for Results in Disruptive, Turbulent Times

 

The Biggest How To Post EverWhere?  Who? What? Why? How? When?  >> NOW!

Do you want to transform changes, challenges, turning points into levers for your greatest potential? Rethink your thinking?  Build improved communication, collaboration and results across internal or external boundaries? There is no time like the present to think, lead, communicate and succeed forward.  Yes, this may be the biggest “HOW TO” post ever.

 

Ten New Rules of Business Success Playing to strengths is no longer enough. It feels good, because we have all been trained to build upon our strengths, but the reality before us speaks to not only optimizing strengths but finding new ways, faster and better ways to use changes, challenges, turning points, stressors and even failures as levers for our greatest potential.  The reality before us speaks to building our 3Q Edge™, three strengths and a new mindset that help us grow, evolve, collaborate and succeed at the speed of change, challenges and turning points.

May you peruse the following articles, videos and radio interviews and choose topics and practical advice that speaks to your power, your potential and your ability to use what is to create what can be in your life, your work, your people….YOUR world.  Carpe diem.  We are all pioneers in a brave new world. Those who succeed will have the courage and insight to find new, faster and better ways forward.

 

Radio Interview:  Moving From Pain To Gain in Life and Career | My interview by Deb Scott, The Best People We Know Radio Show

Video Interview:  Leading and Succeeding at the Speed of Change/Challenges | My interview for Extraordinary Women TV by Shannon Skinner

Podcast:  Leadership 3.0  | My interview by JoAnn Corley on HR thought leadership and results

 

Change is a constant, using the changes and challenges we face as positive, powerful levers for our greatest potential and results is a new way of thinking, a better way of doing.  The velocity of challenges, turning points and opportunities we face individually and collectively will continue to accelerate, our ability to use all three to build smart leadership, strategic and innovative thought, communication excellence, collaboration and results is REAL and critical.

We are all pioneers in a brave new world. Those who succeed will have the courage and insight to find new, faster and better ways forward. Focus forward, develop your ability to become a possibility thinker and doer. Hone your 3Q Edge™, build your advantage at the speed of change, challenges and complexity because YOU can!  Start today.  Get inspired by what you can do, build and accomplish.

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Enlightened Self Interest: 6 Ways to Build a Resilient Thriving Culture (Including 6 Bonus Links/Tips)

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Enlightened Self Interest by Irene Becker first appeared in People Development Magazine
 This Post Includes 6 BONUS links to action steps and tips!

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(Enlightened self- interest is a philosophy in ethics which states that persons who act to further the interest of others (or the interest of the group or groups to which they belong) ultimately serve their own self-interest.)

How can you enlighten your self- interest and build a resilient, thriving culture in an environment of change, challenges and hyper-competition? Develop anchors that drive engagement, empowerment, communication and collaboration when the chips are down, the going is tough and best practices are made in the now?

Take a deep breath, get ready to stretch, because optimizing your potential and the potential of your people means unlearning much of what worked in the past and is irrelevant today. Learn and unlearn? Build adaptive thinking, improve empowerment, engagement and execution? YOU Betcha!

Here are six powerful, practical steps that will stretch you out of the comfort zone, inspire you with possibility and hopefully challenge you to build a resilient, thriving culture in disruptive times!  AND, if you click on each of the following steps, you  will find additional bonus articles-insights and tips!

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  1. Champion enlightened self- interest because success is a me to we equation. You are only as good as your people. A successful business is a human business. Today, more than ever before, purpose = profit. Success means creating value for your employees, stakeholders, shareholders and the communities you serve
  2. Improve recruitment, employee retention and productivity by building a happier, healthier workplace. Offer health benefits, family-friendly policies (job sharing, child care support, paid time off for family responsibilities), personal and professional development opportunities, and community based projects.
  3. Build essential 3Q skills that will grow at the speed of change. Help your people build their 3Q Edge™ by offering coaching, training and mentor initiative that help them optimize strengths while using/transforming changes, challenges, stressors (even failures) into Q1: Enhanced focus, strategic thought, ability to learn-relearn Q2: Enhanced EQ/EQ, emotional self-management, communication, collaboration, resiliency, risk tolerance Q3: Enhance purpose, integrity of communication, actions and the development of intrinsic motivators that work when the chips are down.
  4. Be a promise manager and leader who fails forward. Use every opportunity to model promise management and leadership. Build the DNA of all successful relationships, trust. Do what you say, come through with the promises you make and when you fail, fess up to the error and teach your people the power of learning to fail forward. Model it, teach it because the sheer velocity of change means that the best and brightest among us will fail. Learning to use our failures to help us lead forward is a critical life and leadership skill.
  5. Become relentlessly solution focused. Develop a new relationship with change, challenges and stressors. Neuroscience now confirms that our brains are set on automatic negative, a default from our days in the cave when being on alert for surrounding predators was critical. Yes, we pick up negative occurrences, random thoughts etc. with the greatest facility; yes, our brains are conspiracy theorists! The caveat is that we can learn to use simple steps that will help us reset the internal GPS, reset patterns, habits of thought that impede our being solution focused.
  6. Encourage learning, growth, collaboration and action! Get out of the comfort zone on a daily basis. There is nothing comfortable about the era in which we are living and leading. Learn to embrace and use moments that take you out of your comfort zone as opportunities to stretch, grow, learn and succeed. Getting out of the comfort zone in small ways, will help you develop greater emotional and mental adaptability in big ways.The imperative to challenge the status quo by developing new ways of thinking, communicating, collaborating and succeeding is written on the walls of our workplaces and organizations. There is no time like the present to champion enlightened self- interest, build your 3Q Edge™ and take your organization forward!

    More?  YOU Betcha

    Ten Ways to Build a Thriving Organization

     

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts this soon.   Stay Tuned!

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We are here to help!

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We do it better at the speed of change, challenges and opportunities.
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Best Self, Work and Life-10 Minute Self Test

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© Irene Becker, Just Coach It-The 3Q Edge™ | Leadership, Communication, Career Reach-Resonance Results | 3Q Leadership™ Blog- 50,000+ Social Media Followers & Growing!  

There is no time like the end of the year to reflect, re-charge, re-purpose and optimize!  

A Gift for YOU

 Instructions:

  1. Check the statement is consistently true for you.
  2. If the statement doesn’t apply to you, replace it with a different one that fits within that category.
  3. Add up sections and total scores.
  4. Understanding your strengths, while learning to USE changes, challenges as levers for your potential is the way forward.
  5. Build YOUR 3Q Edge™, see your strengths and challenges with new eyes that take you forward faster and better!

 
Family & Relationships:

___1. I am happy with my personal relationships.

 

___ 2. I am close to my family.

 

___ 3. I have a good circle of friends whom I enjoy.

 

___ 4. I have a best friend, a confidante, someone I can trust with all my heart.

 

___ 5. I am very close to my children/parents. There is nothing in the way.

 

___ 6. I enjoy my family/extended family; we have worked through any dysfunction and past problems.

 

___ 7. I am part of a professional network that stimulates me intellectually and emotionally.

 

___ 8. I get along well with my neighbors.

 

___ 9. I have at least 20 friends and colleagues who live outside of my country of residence.

 

___10. I am constantly learning how to build better relationships and develop good communication.  Meeting new people is something I look forward to.

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Career/Work:

 

___11. My work/career is both fulfilling and nourishing to me; I am not drained.

 

___ 12. I am highly regarded for my expertise by my manager, clients and/or colleagues.

 

___ 13. I understand what I want to accomplish with and through my career/work and am on a positive career path to meet my personal, financial and emotional goals.

 

___ 14. I work in the right industry or field; it has a bright future.

 

___ 15. I look forward to going to work virtually every day.

 

___ 16. My work is not my life, but it is a rich part of my life and a source of personal and professional growth.

 

___ 17. I work with people I respect and admire.

 

___ 18. My work environment brings out the very best of me because it is stimulating and supports my career and personal development.

 

___ 19. At the end of the day, I have as much energy as I did when started the day; I am not drained.

 

___ 20. The work I do helps to meet my intellectual, social and emotional needs.

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Finances

___21. I have at least  6 month’s living expenses in the bank or money market fund.

 

___ 22. I am on a financial independence track or am already there.

 

___ 23. I don’t have to work at financial success; money seems to find me with very little effort or pushing.

 

___ 24. I have no financial stress of any kind in my life.

 

___ 25. I invest at least 10% of my income/earnings in my ability to increase/expand that income.

 

___ 26. I do not carry credit card debt; I do not overspend.

 

___ 27. When I buy something, I buy the best possible quality.

 

___ 28. I don’t lose sleep over my investments.

 

___ 29. I am financially knowledgeable — I know how money is made and lost.

 

___ 30. I make money because I provide more than enough value to the people/customers who need what I have and I know how to organize, manage and optimize effectiveness in my career or business.

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Resiliency & Happiness

___ 31. I spend my leisure time enjoying my interests; I am never bored.

 

___ 32. I take blank time every 90 minutes; five minutes time to just recharge and relax.

 

___ 33. I have positive waking up and going to bed rituals that help me realize my potential and de-stress.

 

___ 34. I have developed positive rituals that help me recharge, refocus and repurpose in a few minutes.  Rituals, cool tools I can use almost any place and that keep me centered and empowered.

 

___ 35. I am happy and energized.

 

___ 36. I am living the life I want, because my career and lifestyle fit my needs, my goals and purpose.

 

___ 37. I have at least 30 minutes a day that is exclusively for me and I spend it in a chosen way that makes me happy.

 

___ 38. I have developed good mindfulness habits and rituals; I am not excessively stressed or on cortisol/adrenaline overdrive all day.

 

___ 39. I have trained myself to take pleasure in small things and small wins, because they are very important.

 

___ 40. My home makes me happy.  It reflects who I am and where I want to be.

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Optimize Your Time & Effectiveness 

___ 41. I recognize toxic people and do not spend time with people who drain my energy and time.

 

___ 42. I know how to pace myself and have developed personal rituals to really optimize periods of high energy as well as recharge when my energy is low.

 

___ 43. I am assertive and no how to ask for what I need.

 

____ 44. I have the right tools, equipment, computers, software and peripherals that I need to optimize my work.

 

____ 45.  I have developed good systems and processes to build greater efficiency.

 

___ 46. I am an excellent team builder and delegator.  I know how to optimize my time and the time of others.

 

___ 47. I have a system for answering emails that allows me to filter out what is not important, answer what is pertinent.

 

___ 48. I optimize my time by prioritizing what is urgent, important, can be done later and can wait

 

___ 49. I know what my goals are and reflect upon them on a regular basis to make sure that my goals, values and actions are in alignment.

 

___ 50. I recognize the critical importance of effective communication and have honed my ability to communicate for influence across generational and cultural boundaries.

 

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Live YOUR Values

 

___ 51. I love my home and everything about it; it reflects who I am and represents a haven that makes me happy.

 

___ 52. My boundaries are strong enough that people respect me, my needs and what I want.

 

___ 53. I do not tolerate behaviour or communication that is not in alignment with my values, and address it immediately.

 

___ 54. I spend time to reflect upon the values I cherish and make sure that they are an integral part of my life and work.

 

___ 55. I have learned to nurture myself so that when difficult things happen, I can rely on the intrinsic motivators that will keep my moving forward in a positive way when things get tough.

 

___ 56. I understand my personal needs, have developed self-awareness, and am not held hostage by unmet needs or wounds that sabotage my true potential.

 

___ 57. There is nothing I am dreading or avoiding.

 

___ 58. My personal values are clear and present in my life and choices.

 

___ 59. I have resolved issues that held me back in the past, and use this growth to further empower my resiliency and focus.

 

___ 60. I don’t use avoidance as a way of not dealing with work, life problems or issues.  I address the challenge and have learned to use it to optimize and realize my greatest potential.

 

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Thrive!

 

___ 61. I do not have any regrets.  If my life were to end tomorrow, I would be at peace with what I have done, contributed and accomplished.

 

___ 62. I march to my own drummer, and have learned to understand my purpose, know my values and clarify what I want and how I will get there.

 

___ 63.  I do not put off dealing with problems, and have found positive ways to see problems I face with new eyes that help me grow, stretch and succeed.

___ 64. I recognize and appreciate my strengths and am learning to use changes, challenges, stressors and failures as a lever for my greatest potential (my 3Q Edge™)

 

___ 65. I am the captain of my ship and have the motivation, inspiration and synergy that keeps me moving forward.

 

___ 66. I have learned to embrace change and challenges because they are part of my evolution and help me grow and optimize!

 

___ 67. I am aware of my beliefs, and have aligned my beliefs with the values and focus that will help me do my best and accomplish my goals.

 

___ 68. I feel that while I cannot control life, I can control the way I think, feel and communicate; doing so is important.

 

___ 69. I have learned to really appreciate myself, my accomplishments and the challenges I have faced and overcome.
___ 70. I enjoy my life because my purpose, values and sense of self worth continue to grow and expand.  Learning new things is something that excites me!

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Take Care of YOURself

 

__ 71. I take regular vacations/time off.

 

__ 72. I address unresolved matters as soon as I recognize them,

 

___ 73. I take good care of my teeth, gums and health.

 

___ 74. I make sure that I have enough time for self care, self reflection and rest each day.

 

___ 75. I eat food for sustenance and pleasure, not for emotional comfort.

 

___ 76. I spend time to give back, to do volunteer work, mentor etc. because it is important to my sense of purpose and vitality.

 

___ 77. When faced with a health challenge, I address it and get effective care.

 

___ 78.  I keep a gratitude journal or have a personal process or ritual that keeps me focused on the positive in my life.

___ 79. I have positive daily personal rituals that reduce stress and help me feel empowered.

 

___ 80. There is nothing I am doing that is messing up my mind or heart.

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Champion Your Happiness 

Please write down 10 situations, routines that make, or would make, you the happiest and most content.  Pick at least one that you will work on next month!

 

___ 81. _________________________________________________

 

___ 82. _________________________________________________

 

___ 83. _________________________________________________

 

___ 84. _________________________________________________

 

___ 85. _________________________________________________

 

___ 86. _________________________________________________

 

___ 87. _________________________________________________

 

___ 88. _________________________________________________

 

___ 89. _________________________________________________

 

___ 90. ________________________________________________

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Learn & Grow

Please write down 10 activities that you would like to try; activities you have always wanted to try!  Pick at least one activity you will commit to doing next month

 

___ 91. _________________________________________________

 

___ 92. _________________________________________________

 

___ 93. _________________________________________________

 

___ 94. _________________________________________________

 

___ 95. _________________________________________________

 

___ 96. _________________________________________________

 

___ 97. _________________________________________________

 

___ 98. _________________________________________________

 

___ 99. _________________________________________________

 

___ 100. ________________________________________________

 

___ Section score (Number of checked boxes)

 

___ Total score (Number of checked boxes)

 

 

Scoring Key:

90-100. Awesome. Congratulations. Incredible.™
80-89. Excellent! Your score is very high — this is a tough test.
70-79. Very good. You’re definitely on track. Keep going
60-69. Pretty good, but there is some work to do.
50-59. Average score. Why not make best self-best work-best life a priority and score 10 more points in the next month?
40-49. You may need develop a new relationships with changes, challenges or failures that helps you actualize your potential!
30-39. Weak. Get re-engaged.  YOU can turn this around
00-29. Time to really focus on YOUR best self, best work and best life.  Carpe diem!

 

I hope you will use this quick self test to get empowered by where you are and where you can go in 2015!  There is no time like the present to develop a personal action plan that helps you engage your best self, best work and build your best life!

More?   YOU Betcha.  Lots of 3Q Edge™ posts and cool tools (3 min or less)  to share!

The Pause-A 2-3 Minute Mindfulness Tool  to Recharge, Refocus and Repurpose!
100 Stressbusters that Take  3 Minutes or Less!
The Empowerment Compendium
The Happiness Compendium
Ten Ways to Build Great Leadership in Turbulent Times (#1 Post for Elysian Training UK 2014)
Using Failure to Succeed (#1 Post for Elysian Training UK 2013)
Ten Ways to Lead and Succeed Forward in Times of Complexity and Change
The Secret to Peace and Prosperity

Anything else?  YES.  Our new website and blog  with expanded collaborators, programs and services for individuals, organizations and emerging leaders debuts this soon.   Stay Tuned!


W
armest wishes to all for a wonderful Holiday Season and 2015!

 

 


Are you ready to find a new way, a better and faster way to build strong leadership, communication influence and career success at the speed of change/challenges?

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Leadership, Communication, Career REACH-RESONANCE-RESULTS
We do it better at the speed of change and challenges!
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The Secret to Peace and Prosperity (Including 19 Posts and 98 Inspiring Podcasts & Interviews!)

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The greatest miracle is the miracle of life; our ability to use our life ( as opposed to spending it) by celebrating and realizing our individual and collective ability to build a better present and future is real….and critical.

If you enjoy  this short, purposeful allegory, please take a moment to share it with others.

 

Conquering Self Doubt or Discouragement #4

The Secret to Peace and Prosperity
A Short, Purposeful,  Allegory

Three wise men and one wise woman were walking in the woods, when they found a special box, a box unlike any other, hidden deep in the forest…

 The three wise men approached the most incredible treasure, the secret to peace and prosperity…

 

 The first wise man was too busy to see the treasure…

 

 The second wise man was too stressed to see the treasure…

 

The third wise man fell to his knees and wept because the greatest treasure, the secret to peace and prosperity was emblazoned on a simple blade of grass that sat between the river of his greatest desires and his most hidden weaknesses and fear…

 

  • Live and lead with faith in your highest power and dedication to following the universal values that sustain your world, and you will discover the secret to building your best self, best thoughts, best emotions and best actions.

 

  • Live and lead with compassion and non-judgment towards yourself and your fellow human beings, and you will discover the secret to building humility, courage, tenacity and resiliency in the face of change and pain.

 

  • Live and lead with love in your heart for the great gift of life, and you will discover that the secret to peace and prosperity lies not in what you can command, control or acquire but in what you can give, receive and share.

The third wise man turned to the wise woman with whom he shared his story,  and continued to cry because…

In reading what was written on that simple blade of grass between his greatest desires and his most hidden weaknesses and fears…

He had opened his head, heart and soul to that eternal flame that can transform all that is into all that can be…

 

Today, as you are reading these words and digesting this simple story; think about the purpose of your life, pause and reflect upon the reality that life and the accoutrements of success and comfort that you acquire on your journey are simply on loan to you.

When you leave this life, all that you have commanded, controlled and acquired disappears.

But, the faith, compassion and love that you have shared with others becomes a legacy, an eternal, timeless treasure that will remain in the hearts and minds of those whose lives you have touched. A gift that they can, in turn pass on to others who seek to realize their potential to make a difference in their world.

Seize this moment, this day to think about how you can build the faith, compassion and love that can help you take your life from good to great by simply starting to activate your potential to make a difference in the life of another. 

Because, all that we have, all that we are, is nothing in comparison with what we have the power to become when we choose to live and lead from goodness to greatness.  Be the miracle, see your strengths and transform your challenges into your lever for a better present and future!
Carpe diem.

 

Yours in service,
Irene

 

More about Human Passion, Purpose and Potential?  YOU Betcha.  Go ahead, get inspired.  Enjoy one or more of the following 19 posts and a Compendium of  98 Inspiring Podcasts and Interviews!

Against All Odds:  A True Story of Hope, Courage and Leadership
I Will NOT Be Broken
From Victim to Victor
The Empowerment Compendium
Look Within-You Are The Secret
The Best And Worst Of Times
Our Greatest Hope
Rising to the Challenge Before Us
Success Equals The Reach And Resonance Of The Human Heart
The Secret To Personal Development And Growth
Be The Miracle
Rediscover Your Genius
The 18 Word Success Formula
True Happiness-Transformational Joy
The Happiness Compendium
Live And Lead Forward-Connect And Contribute
Goodness to Greatness Leadership
A Collection of Favorite Quotations
Great Read Excerpt and Review of Dare Dream Do by Whitney Johnson

A Collection of  98 Inspiring Podcasts and WebTV Interviews

 

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Leadership, Communication, Career REACH-RESONANCE-RESULTS
We do it better at the speed of change, challenges and opportunities.
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A Whole New World

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A Whole New World

 Courage lies in our ability to develop a whole new mind set, skill set and heart set that optimizes the unbridled passion, purpose and potential of humans to do better, rather than simply living or working faster than ever before.  Hope lies in the hearts and minds of those who recognize our ability to use what is to create what can be in our lives, workplaces and organizations.

♦A Whole NEW World. Last week I was struck by a conversation with a colleague who has a big footprint in the coaching and training community. In thinking about his words, this post was born. My colleague shared his opinion that those who train, coach and teach are not doing anything different, and that there has been nothing new since Aristotle…we just position things for the times.  In thinking about his words, I could not help but reflect upon a decade of working tirelessly to help people and organizations see things differently and why in 2014 this still remains an uphill battle, but a battle worth fighting.  Things are different today, and if we are inured to what is different and what must change we are seeing the forest and missing the trees.  While large organizations are particularly geared to entrenching the status quo, we will not lead forward, we cannot prosper by doing what was and expecting to create the foundation for a better futureIf we cannot see the differences before us, the whole new world we face, we will not be able to step out of a box that will ultimately limit or deride our potential.

♦What is different today?  Just about everything.  Change, challenges, hyper-competition and opportunities are the new normal. The values, the importance of asking the right questions and of championing dialogue, integrity and value are timeless…but the skill set we need NOW in order to live, communicate, lead and succeed forward IS DIFFERENT from what we learned in the past because it requires us to use what is to create what CAN be, rather than relying upon what was to take us forward.

♦Why is a new mindset important?  Because what was will not take us forward.  The writing is on the walls of our lives, our workplaces, our organizations; success about creating value for others and doing so means learning new ways, faster ways, better ways, different ways to open our minds, engage our ability to ideate, innovate, create and co-create while recognizing that the darkest, bleakest part of human nature is the desire to take for the self alone. The mechanism for education, for learning AND re-learning must be focused on optimizing our minds, recognizing our ability think smarter, better and more creatively while engaging our purpose as human beings doing better.

♦Why is developing a new skill-set and vocabulary important?  Because managing is not enough.  We cannot truly manage change, but we can count on a velocity of change, challenges, hyper competition AND opportunities that will continue to accelerate.  We can manage people, talent and performance, but unless we raise the bar with a focus on optimizing our potential we are managing a ship that will ultimately sink.  Our ability to use words, use phrases and change the language from a focus on managing to a vocabulary of optimization is important because in changing our words, we also change our focus. Our ability to develop our 3Q Edge™, to use our strengths as well as the changes, challenges, stressors and failures we face as positive levers for enhanced ideation, innovative thought, cognitive ability as well as emotional intelligence, resiliency and enhanced communication collaboration is not pixie dust…it is the way forward.  And, it is a way forward, a way of building IQ and EQ that is anchored in the purpose, values and development of intrinsic motivators (SQ)  that make us stronger, keep us learning, leading and living forward when the times are tough.

♦Why is a new heart set important? How do passion, purpose and potential fit into the business equation? Passion, purpose and potential are part of the new business equation because while controlling the mode of production was the litmus test of success, rising to the top means developing cognitive, emotional dexterity and engaging our ability to focus on value creation for ourselves, our people and the communities we serve.  What does not create value for others is doomed to ultimate failure, and this failure represents that downfall of every great nation in recorded history and is also the new battle ground for consumerism gone wrong, individual rights that are critically important but must be also aligned with the collective good.

I believe in our ability to think, learn, communicate and succeed forward.  It is this belief and the values that support it that has helped me move molehills and mountains in my life and the lives of others.  It is this belief that is the pilot light of all pioneers, of all those who feel the pull, the desire, the opportunity to build and contribute to a better world in what every way speaks to their lives, their purpose, their journey.  We can choose to be pioneers in a brave new world, ombudsmen and ombudswomen of our greatest purpose, our most important potential or wait for the next change, challenge or competitive dilemma to obscure our ability to develop new ways of thinking, communicating and doing that take us forward faster and better together.  People, passion, purpose, process and aligning all four to create better workplaces, better organizations and the type of engagement and commitment that drives results is critical on an individual and collective level. Carpe Diem!

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12 Important Things I Have Learned About Leadership, Success And Failure

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12  Important Things I Have Learned About Leadership, Success And Failure (Including 1700+ bonus links, audio and video clips)

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3Q Leadership Insights And Action

  • Business success is not about the need, it is about the want.  

    Showing up with the greatest strategy, solution or program will not take you forward unless your audience, your constituency, your stakeholders recognize the critical area of need you serve as a WANT.  Some of the greatest inventions, ideas and strategies were never realized as great successes by their creators. The imperative to find and fill the want so that you can establish a footprint that will allow you to speak to the need is critical.

  • Competitive differentiation and success are about creating value.  

    Innovation is fueled by the desire to create value.  Competitive differentiation and success are about delivering this value.  What does not create value will not survive.  Success is a value based equation, and today part of that equation is the optimization of great thought, great ideas/innovations, great communication and collaboration.  The ability to innovate is born of a desire to create value, this desire must be part of organizational cultures, learning initiatives…it is part of the DNA of 21st century business success.

  • The biggest challenge we face is internal.  

    The greatest threat we face is internal; whether we are sabotaging our own ability/talent, working in the wrong culture or sector, trying to climb a ladder that no longer exists…It is our mindset, our ability to stand tall by recognizing our strengths and challenges and using BOTH to optimize and realize our potential that is the way forward.  It is our 3Q Edge™

  • Leadership is a tough road, but true leadership is not an easy journey, it is a road of purpose, commitment, courage and results.  

    What separates those who truly lead and those who do not is the ability to cleave to the courage, purpose and commitment to achieve results.  Results that drive great business, results that drive an evolution of self, of one’s people and positively impact the community in which one lives.  Our greatest hope lies in the hearts and minds of leaders who can inspire, empower and enable our greatest potential.  If you want to lead forward, be prepared for a tough road that is worthwhile because paving the road will be your biggest commitment and contribution.

  • Purpose Equals Profit on a Multiplicity of Levels.  

    You cannot destroy the power of purpose because it is the fire that lights our souls, our greatest thought, action and results. Purpose keeps us strong, focused and helps us develop the resiliency we need to lead, learn and succeed forward.  Purpose is the strength that kindles the human passion and resolve that can take us forward on a multiplicity of levels that impact the quality of our lives, our workplaces, our leadership and our world. Coaching, training, learning and development, mentor-ship initiatives that are not focused on tapping into the purpose of the organization in alignment with the individual and collective purpose of employees and teams will be unable to drive sustainable results in this new trajectory of change, challenges, hyper-competition and opportunities.  Purpose equals profit on a multiplicity of levels.

  • Being a change-maker is not an easy path, but it is worth it. We can all be change-makers in our own way. All positive changes big and small are critical.  

    I did not start out my career aspiring to be a change-maker, but I successfully led a steel company when there were few/no women in similar positions, helped to change the environmental law in a province, and took a landmark case for children’s rights to success and have faced and overcome gut-wrenching challenges.   None of these accomplishments were easy, and they required gut wrenching decisions and fortitude.  Was it worth it?  YOU betcha.  There is nothing that can replace knowing that one has in some small or large way contributed to a better future. We can look upon challenges we face and feel defeated, or we can pick challenges we have the courage and commitment to address and help resolve.  The former is tough, but in making the difficult choice, we make a right choice that drives our best self and best results forward.

  • Difficult challenges and failure are hard, but necessary.  

    I have had great success and I have also suffered great challenges and failures that humbled me, nearly destroyed my career and taught me that the only way to lead forward is to learn forward. The ability to develop a new relationship with one’s failures that optimizes our ability to learn and relearn, build resiliency and grit and also look at problems, solutions and failures with new eyes that take us forward is critical.  Using failure to succeed is a critical life and leadership skill.

  •  What you focus on grows. 

    Neuroscience and psychology have taught us that what you focus on grows. Our minds give direction to our brains, and the focus of our thoughts, the belief systems that underlie them will predetermine what and how we see things. Learning to do an internal re-set, to let go of default patterns of thinking that sabotage our greatest potential is critical and doable.  We can learn to take small, consistent steps that re-write default patterns of thinking (as well as communicating and doing) that take us forward faster and better.

  •  The ability to develop cross-cultural, cross generational communication, engagement and results is real, doable, teachable and critical. 

    We cannot break through barriers when our focus is the barriers that exist between us, because this mind-set automatically limits our ability to communicate, collaborate, ideate and work together towards a better future. Learning how to build bridges across cultures, generations, internal and external barriers is one of the most important communication and leadership skills.  I cut my teeth being a woman CEO in the steel industry many years ago because wearing the yoke of a visible minority who was discounted immediately, having to develop international and cross generational communication helped me realize that the way forward is a focus on what unites and resonates all parties regardless of culture or generation.

  • Seven commitments are critical anchors for great leadership.

    They are commitments that take us forward faster and better.  Commitments that ignite our best selves, best work, best leadership and best lives.  They can be used as part of learning, training or leadership commitment statements that are championed by the C-Suite and lived vertically and horizontally in the organization.  Leadership starts with a commitment that must be mirrored in our organizations, our lives and the employees, constituents and communities we serve.

  • Our greatest promise lies in re-setting the status quo because what worked in the past may be impotent in the future.  

    Learning, leading and succeeding forward means re-setting the gender divide, championing diversity, collaboration and taking active positive steps that drive new ways, better ways, faster ways to work better together.  The ability to stretch, to grow, to move past educational, generational, cultural silos that keep us transfixed on one point of view, rather than incorporating the power of shared viewpoints and complimentary strengths is the way forward. Leading forward means making a critical shift forward.

  •  Happiness and success are a value proposition. Life is a gift you can either choose to spend or use.

 We live in a world of paradox where some of the richest, most successful people are also bitter, disenchanted and unhappy. Once our survival needs have been met, the truest success is happiness; and true happiness can only be defined by self actualization and our ability to feel that we are contributing, giving, sharing and growing. Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is timeless, because the human desire, the pilot light of purpose that lights our greatest purpose and happiness cannot be cast asunder.

 

Human effectiveness must be a critical focal point, because looking at efficiency without effectiveness, short-term results without long-term consequences, communication without engagement and buy-in will deter our greatest potential and results. The imperative to realize our ability to think smarter, communicate, collaborate and lead forward faster and better must be aligned with a focus on the actualization of human potential, purpose and the realization of results that take us forward better together.

 

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